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So, the other night my wife says a female coworker of hers wants to go shooting during lunch time today and she asks me for help I getting her gear ready. Ok, fine. No problem. I gather things up, clean and safety check her pistol etc. it's been quite a while since she went to the range, so I decided to give her a refresher on gun safety and handling along with a once over with her pistol.
I explained to her in a calm tone of voice that I'll be explaining things that she's already heard, but for safety reasons, I'll go over it again. I get a look that says "I don't need you to tell me anything. I know what I'm doing". Ok deep breaths....Finger off the trigger until your ready to fire and muzzle down range at all times, no exceptions. I immediately get swept with the muzzle as she's practicing racking the slide. I calmly correct her, but with a firm time of voice. Oh no. Apparently I made a mistake pointing that out. In her mind I'm being a big meanie trying to stroke an ego I guess. I mentally said "fuck it" and told her to deal with the RO if you've got questions or he can either correct you or throw your ass out for being unsafe. I walked back downstairs and hugged my Dillon for comfort....
hurley842002
04-13-2016, 07:25
My wife doesn't take constructive criticism of ANY kind well, doesn't matter if she's in the wrong or not, I'm always a big meanie...
Great-Kazoo
04-13-2016, 07:48
So, the other night my wife says a female coworker of hers wants to go shooting during lunch time today and she asks me for help I getting her gear ready. Ok, fine. No problem. I gather things up, clean and safety check her pistol etc. it's been quite a while since she went to the range, so I decided to give her a refresher on gun safety and handling along with a once over with her pistol.
I explained to her in a calm tone of voice that I'll be explaining things that she's already heard, but for safety reasons, I'll go over it again. I get a look that says "I don't need you to tell me anything. I know what I'm doing". Ok deep breaths....Finger off the trigger until your ready to fire and muzzle down range at all times, no exceptions. I immediately get swept with the muzzle as she's practicing racking the slide. I calmly correct her, but with a firm time of voice. Oh no. Apparently I made a mistake pointing that out. In her mind I'm being a big meanie trying to stroke an ego I guess. I mentally said "fuck it" and told her to deal with the RO if you've got questions or he can either correct you or throw your ass out for being unsafe. I walked back downstairs and hugged my Dillon for comfort....
Well....................... Hypothetically 3 weeks ago my spouse says. We need to trim your toenails before you have surgery [LOL]
We've been together 42-43 years now. You want stories. I'll tell ya stories that would make the PWT look like it's been locked.
Been there...Done that. I feel your pain. Still would not trade her for the world.
hunterhawk
04-13-2016, 08:17
my wife doesn't even like guns!!!! True story.... good thing I don't have any!
my wife doesn't even like guns!!!! True story.... good thing I don't have any!
Boating accident, eh?
Well....................... Hypothetically 3 weeks ago my spouse says. We need to trim your toenails before you have surgery [LOL]
We've been together 42-43 years now. You want stories. I'll tell ya stories that would make the PWT look like it's been locked.
WTF? She forgot what you going in for? Should've gotten a pedicure on your way over...
newracer
04-13-2016, 08:32
Yes most of the time it is very tough for a wife to accept criticism. My wife has only shot a few times but has recently decided to shoot more and also took a class. Before the class she asked that I take her to the range so she didn't feel like a totally NOOB during the class. To be honest I was kind of dreading it, but surprisingly she was very open to learning and had no problems with me correcting her while she shot. Now that she has had a class and a little range time we will just have to see how the next time goes.
hurley842002
04-13-2016, 08:36
Still would not trade her for the world.
Should have mentioned that as well.
Zundfolge
04-13-2016, 08:41
Damn KS63, i had no idea you were such a patriarchal misogynist. [ROFL1]
Let us know if your wife dies her hair bright pink or purple and starts yelling at you for "mansplaining" or starts complaining about The Patriarchy. Does she have a Tumblr account?
This is why I've been trying to get the wife into a women's firearms class. She's interested but I need more of her female friends to want to join her so she doesn't feel alone in it, at least for the first class. She knows the basics but there's some things that are best when you remove the S/O from the teaching process, IMO.
Jefe's AR
04-13-2016, 09:20
Not just my wife. It seems the first thing EVERYONE forgets about is the muzzle. I've got the fam trained well. If I have a rile out in the kitchen finger focking it, my wife and kids will always say something like "coming through" in reference to needing to walk past the muzzle.
I'm usually nice the first two times I explain muzzle sweep. First time is the initial "always point your muzzle in a safe direction", then the second time it's a firm but friendly reminder, the third time it's...
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Mu51rszgotI
And after I get the look the Lieutenant gives, I explain how focking serious this shit is. One more time and I take the gun permanently and will never take then shooting again. That's never happened, yet.
The good news is that I started my kids early and it's fairly instinctual now.
My dad asks me to help my mom on the trap range whenever we're together because she gets upset when he corrects her. My aunt and uncle are the same.
I believe formal women's courses are the ticket.
Same problem for me, doesn't matter if it's at the range or anything else. Like a few weeks ago having the conversation again that if a recipe calls for buttermilk you can not just sub in whole milk without some additional modification. Reminding her of the time a year ago when her biscuits came out flat and dense didn't help me much either. The physics involved of combining acids and alkalines in equal proportions to create the correct amount of CO2 also didn't help either of us it seems.
Same problem for me, doesn't matter if it's at the range or anything else. Like a few weeks ago having the conversation again that if a recipe calls for buttermilk you can not just sub in whole milk without some additional modification. Reminding her of the time a year ago when her biscuits came out flat and dense didn't help me much either. The physics involved of combining acids and alkalines in equal proportions to create the correct amount of CO2 also didn't help either of us it seems.
[ROFL1]
http://49.media.tumblr.com/tumblr_mea38fK1g81qebseoo1_500.gif
muddywings
04-13-2016, 12:23
Is it just MY wife?
No
Same problem for me, doesn't matter if it's at the range or anything else. Like a few weeks ago having the conversation again that if a recipe calls for buttermilk you can not just sub in whole milk without some additional modification. Reminding her of the time a year ago when her biscuits came out flat and dense didn't help me much either. The physics involved of combining acids and alkalines in equal proportions to create the correct amount of CO2 also didn't help either of us it seems.
Mine uses lemon juice and or vinegar to make buttermilk. She also listens about gun stuff. Let the bidding begin.
Well, got a text from her saying they're done shooting. Obviously nothing went wrong, thank God, and she even said she tried to collect as much brass as she could for me. Hmmmm....that's got to be an "I'm sorry" in her sick, twisted way.
Probably not. Could be a big middle finger and an "I told you so"....
My gf likes to tell me all her problems... that she can't solve.. I offer a solution and get yelled at for not understanding she 'doesn't want a solution, just for me to listen'.. Which I take to mean 'that's fucking simple and works, you're correct but I'll never admit that I didn't think of that'...
Wait to be asked after offering nicely.
There are some things that husbands should not do for their wives. Mine still can't drive a standard transmission and won't till she finds someone who will teach her. I love my wife and have sworn to promote the domestic tranquility. [Flower]
To be fair, there are plenty of things she has tried to teach me that I have no patience to sit through.
BPTactical
04-13-2016, 15:22
If a wife were to accept criticism it would mean she was wrong.
Any questions?
I thought not.
Aloha_Shooter
04-13-2016, 15:26
One of the reasons one of my favorite songs is "I'm An Ordinary Man" from My Fair Lady:
Let a woman in your life,
and patience hasn't got a chance,
she will beg you for advice, your reply will be concise,
and she will listen very nicely, and then go out
and do precisely what she wants!!!
<br>
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wefP_aEl6_I
Of course, "A Hymn to Him" fits too:
Women are irrational, that's all there is to that!
Their heads are full of cotton, hay, and rags!
They're nothing but exasperating, irritating,
vacillating, calculating, agitating,
Maddening and infuriating hags!
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=APPfTEv-YxI
HoneyBadger
04-13-2016, 16:06
In response to the OP, no. It probably doesn't help that I am very critical and can be condescending when talking about things that I think should be obvious.
This thread, especially the most recent posts, makes me think of this:
-4EDhdAHrOg
spqrzilla
04-13-2016, 16:30
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Wives will usually only listen to a third party when learning stuff..... When my wife wanted to learn how to shoot I learned really fast that it went a lot better if I brought a friend along and had them teach her verse me teaching her directly.
JohnTRourke
04-13-2016, 17:05
In response to the OP, no. It probably doesn't help that I am very critical and can be condescending when talking about things that I think should be obvious.
This thread, especially the most recent posts, makes me think of this:
-4EDhdAHrOg
oh come on!!!!!!!
that is hilarious
and totally true.
I tell my wife, if you don't want the solution, then don't ask me.
funkymonkey1111
04-13-2016, 17:58
Show her this
https://youtu.be/_qVHexdOeN0
Bailey Guns
04-13-2016, 18:22
Is it just MY wife?
Unfortunately, no.
My gf likes to tell me all her problems... that she can't solve.. I offer a solution and get yelled at for not understanding she 'doesn't want a solution, just for me to listen'..
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-4EDhdAHrOg
HoneyBadger
04-13-2016, 23:07
Repost within the same thread? On the same page even? Well done, sir! [Beer]
[LOL]
If the roles were reversed, I bet we wouldn't take it very well either. [gohome]
My wife is a law abiding adult and I have no say in weather or not she can go shooting (or anything else). If she asked for some safety info from me and then rejected it, I guess I'd point out the that she asked and see if she wanted me to continue or not. I don't like people pointing guns at me though and she'd get an earful about that wether she wanted to or not.
Repost within the same thread? On the same page even? Well done, sir! [Beer]
[LOL]
Huh. Have no idea how I missed that, scrolled back and forth through the thread and never saw it.
O2
HoneyBadger
04-14-2016, 11:01
Huh. Have no idea how I missed that, scrolled back and forth through the thread and never saw it.
O2
No worries. No harm was done, I just thought it was worth a little chuckle. [Beer]
My girlfriend is fine with guns. However, motorcycling is another story. For some reason I'm a jerk because I want her to be safe when shes riding her Ninja 250. No matter how I approach it, she gets mad at me. If we can't find some common ground on this, I'm likely to insist she stops riding.
She took the MSF course, has ridden quite a bit with friends of her's that ride (who can of course critique her riding to no ill effect), and I did a track school with her at High Plains. She says she "knows" every time I try to help/suggest something, but refuses to put it into practice.
So, no... It's not just your wife.
wctriumph
04-14-2016, 23:42
My wife reminds ME every time I pull a gun out of the safe! Check to see if its loaded. I did. Do it again so I know. Here, check it for yourself. OK, good. Thank you dear.
Bailey Guns
04-15-2016, 06:54
[Coffee]
That took far longer than I thought it would...
That took far longer than I thought it would...
I guess you just don't understand women at all...
Join the club.
Jefe's AR
04-15-2016, 09:27
My wife reminds ME every time I pull a gun out of the safe! Check to see if its loaded. I did. Do it again so I know. Here, check it for yourself. OK, good. Thank you dear.
Congrats! You've won the wife lottery. She listened AND retained information.
Mine's a good one too. :)
...I'm likely to insist she stops riding.
Get back to us on how that works out for you... :)
O2
Mista Bukit
04-16-2016, 06:16
My wife has had formal training and it helped.
Once she was not paying attention to the muzzle and I pointed it out--she immediately flashed on the husbands can't criticize reaction then remembered a second later how serious firearm safety is and said "you are right I'm sorry". I have to cherish the memory because it will not happen on any other subject.
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