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USMC88-93
10-28-2016, 18:22
The number of people I personally know that have chosen that route is almost in the double digits so I have become come somewhat callus and immune to the shock and surprise of suicide. Bad news just never surprises me anymore. It is a whole different ball of wax when it is a family member. Of course the family grapevine did not work as advertised and I found out the day before the funeral. I typically have felt nothing but contempt and anger towards those that have made that choice I'm a bit coonflicted having those feelings towards a family members choice though a stupid choice it was.
26 years old
http://horancares.com/obituary/Jessica-Lynn-Parker/Denver-CO/1666905
Great-Kazoo
10-28-2016, 18:24
Sadly there's nothing to say except, condolences.
Condolences. Not being notified by family just adds salt to the wounds. :(
My condolences to you and the rest of the family. Definitely a sad affair when someone with so much life ahead of them leaves us too early.
Very sad, my sincere condolences for the family and you.
If you want to help prevent more problems for the family have someone at their house when the family is out for the funeral. My dad died in Jan and while we were at the services someone broke into my 90 year old moms house and took many family items that could not be replaced at any cost. Who would have thought!
Bob
Sorry, man.
I've been close to a couple of suicides. They usually piss me off with the selfishness of the act. The most recent left a young baby fatherless while his wife was on military deployment. Wasn't on his own and had support from his family...but opted out of life with sleeping pills, a trash bag, and a bottle of helium.
I hope the family gets through this as best they can.
gnihcraes
10-28-2016, 20:43
Sorry to hear, condolences.
Reminds me to check on a friend tomorrow.
I'm sorry. It's a special kind of hurt for family to sit on this info.
Suicide is a painful, baffling event. There is no closure.
USMC88-93
10-28-2016, 21:04
I'm sorry. It's a special kind of hurt for family to sit on this info.
Suicide is a painful, baffling event. There is no closure.
No one sat on it, immediate family spread word with expectation it would travel, and those that would have told me presumed someone else had already. My sister messaged me asking me for an address to send a sympathy card related to the funeral......My response was "What Funeral?". She had an Oh Shit moment realizing no one had told me.
HoneyBadger
10-28-2016, 22:13
Sorry to hear about your family's loss. :(
Honey Badger282.8
10-29-2016, 06:32
My condolences to your family.
Double00
10-29-2016, 07:09
Condolences and prayers for you and your family.
Nothing can really be said which fixes this, makes it easier, or provides an answer. I'm sorry for your loss and will include her in my prayers today.
So sorry for your loss. Judging from the obit and the many messages posted, she was a high energy joung lady who touched many people in a positive way. It's easy to see why she was so loved and will be so missed.
henpecked
10-29-2016, 07:47
Condolences to all.
StagLefty
10-29-2016, 07:55
My deepest condolences. I try not to judge suicides because nobody has any idea what is going on inside that person to drive them to such an extreme.RIP
I have lost a couple of good friends to suicide. One phone call would have brought me running.
PTSD? I know a vet with a whole hearted interest in vets. I can/will relay info.
No one sat on it, immediate family spread word with expectation it would travel, and those that would have told me presumed someone else had already. My sister messaged me asking me for an address to send a sympathy card related to the funeral......My response was "What Funeral?". She had an Oh Shit moment realizing no one had told me.
I misunderstood! I am very glad to have been mistaken, and I am sincerely sorry for the loss of your family member.
fportmen45
10-30-2016, 12:24
I'm sorry.
killianak9
10-30-2016, 12:36
Sorry for your loss! Thoughts and prayers to everyone.
I lost my brother two years ago to Suicide
God Speed
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theGinsue
10-31-2016, 11:00
My heartfelt sympathies to you and your family. She was a beautiful young woman.
I don't understand suicide, never have. I've had moments in my life which were so low that I've prayed for God to just take me, but I could not/would not be the instrument of my own death. When I was a child my mom attempted suicide. I remember the pain and fear I felt at almost losing her; it was overwhelming. I care too much for those I love to ever put them through that, no matter how bad my circumstances might get.
In August of last year a coworker took his own life. We weren't particularly friends, just coworkers, but we were a shop of just 7 people so there were bonds beyond just casual acquintance. His suicide affected me greatly. He was a good man and is missed but his memory will always be shadowed by the manner of his death.
I'm not a particularly good person; I make many mistakes and plenty are due to selfish desires. Thing is, I do care about others and will help anyone in any way I can. If anyone here on this site is ever in need of a friend to just listen to them, to be there for THEM, contact me - I'll be there! I don't want to lose anyone else I know, that includes everyone on this site. Sometimes in life all we need to get through lifes hardest times is just having someone there who cares without sitting in judgement. If you're in such a situation, please reach out to me - I do care about you!
May Gods hand of protection, peace, comfort and healing be ever upon each of us and our families.
USMC88-93
11-07-2016, 20:51
Filed in the category of things you just don't want to know. She cleaned her apartment immaculately, moved a dresser to the center of her living room put one of those gigantic full length floor standing mirrors leaned against it. and then stood in front of it and shot herself. No one heard a shot, and the keys were in her front door lock for days. Her mother found her. Text on her phone had the police researching her interaction with a couple of people but no indication as to the ultimate reason behind her choice other than depression must have really got a hold of her.
Public services were last week and the Catholic Mass and internment were today (Of all days her Mothers birthday. Today was a bit odd, funeral mass in the morning and birthday dinner in the evening for the same family.)
I am so sorry for you loss, having had a number of friends choose suicide over the continued pain of living. I tears me apart when someone close chooses a permanent solution to temporary problems, but clearly, they didn't see it that way. When my best friend killed himself in '05, I beat myself up for years over "shoulda, woulda, coulda", and to this day still fall into that trap sometimes late at night.
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