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So I just found a pic of my wife's ex on a friends facebook page.... It leads my mind to wonder what she ever saw in him. He's not what I would call her "type"...
Part of me feels angry for some of the stuff he did and part of me is curious as well. Anyone else ever have experiences like this?
For clarification, my wife and I have known each other since we were little kids (literally) but we've both have significant others over the decades... though this is my first (and only) marriage. Her second.
henpecked
06-30-2010, 14:23
Young and naive...........wisdom comes with age
jason303
06-30-2010, 14:25
So I just found a pic of my wife's ex on a friends facebook page.... It leads my mind to wonder what she ever saw in him. He's not what I would call her "type"...
Part of me feels angry for some of the stuff he did and part of me is curious as well. Anyone else ever have experiences like this?
For clarification, my wife and I have known each other since we were little kids (literally) but we've both have significant others over the decades... though this is my first (and only) marriage. Her second.
I get it. It all works out in the end though. She left him for a reason and she's with you for a reason. He ain't top shelf and you won.
StagLefty
06-30-2010, 14:46
Just let it go-it's healthier that way [Beer]
jason303
06-30-2010, 14:49
Forgot to mention... Women look to befriend their ex's on FB because they want to show off how much better they have it now and to see what kind of dog the guy ended up with. Nothing more.
Just let it go-it's healthier that way [Beer]
BIG rgr on that. I won't bring it up or anything. I never met the guy and he doesn't live anywhere near us, etc, so I could care less. It was just an "interesting" moment with weird feelings...
Forgot to mention... Women look to befriend their ex's on FB because they want to show off how much better they have it now and to see what kind of dog the guy ended up with. Nothing more.
My wife did not befriend him. She wants absolutely nothing to do with the guy. This was a found picture on one of my wive's friends page... who she doesn't even talk to anymore so I don't know why they are "friends" but that's a different topic.
I am in a similar situation.
Neithor one of us worry about it.
My feeling is that it doesn't matter who is first only who is last.
We celebrated our 25th anniversary in March.
Wow, 25 huh? Congrats. I just finished my first in May. Trying to get to the family record (73) but I married too late to get that, lol...
funkfool
06-30-2010, 15:36
Congrats on 25 years 10x - and to BB for the first...
My first anniversay is next Saturday....
Going to Vegas...
I think we're gonna make it...
[LOL]
Burn Notice is one of my favorite tv shows and my wife's ex is in it :D
Fortunately he plays Barry the hapless money launderer rather than Michael the suave spy.
Lol, I like Burn Notice as well.
There is a "famous" adult actress with my last name and people always ask me if we are related. Not at all as far as I can tell, although I can see the "family resemblence". <-- No jokes needed! HAHA.
jason303
06-30-2010, 16:24
BIG rgr on that. I won't bring it up or anything. I never met the guy and he doesn't live anywhere near us, etc, so I could care less. It was just an "interesting" moment with weird feelings...
My wife did not befriend him. She wants absolutely nothing to do with the guy. This was a found picture on one of my wive's friends page... who she doesn't even talk to anymore so I don't know why they are "friends" but that's a different topic.
Well, she doesn't want anything to do with him so leave it at that. Don't drive yourself crazy over nothing. I have and it's just not worth it.
Glock Shooter
06-30-2010, 17:35
I hear ya, but just be glad you don't have to interact with your wife's ex like I do. This guy is a royal piece of work. I won't go into the details because most of you here would get so infuriated, well, I'll give you one example. We're in the process of trying to get him to agree to a new parenting agreement. He's actually arguing that, should he become homeless, he should still be allowed overnight visitation with his 5 year old daughter. Can you believe it? Anyway, be glad it was just a photo as my hell happens every Friday.
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Forgot to mention... Women look to befriend their ex's on FB because they want to show off how much better they have it now and to see what kind of dog the guy ended up with. Nothing more.
Funny you say that, Ive had a couple try to arrange a booty call. And they know I'm a married man now
jason303
06-30-2010, 21:53
Funny you say that, Ive had a couple try to arrange a booty call. And they know I'm a married man now
You have quite a trail. I've never had that happen. I think normally my observation is close to the mark. With this and all the other posts, I have to thank God I have the woman I do. Nothing's better for your health than trust & reliability at home. If you don't have it yet, get there.
You have quite a trail. I've never had that happen. I think normally my observation is close to the mark. With this and all the other posts, I have to thank God I have the woman I do. Nothing's better for your health than trust & reliability at home. If you don't have it yet, get there.
Exactally, my wife has no reason whatsoever to even think about reaching out to her ex's nor do I.
Funny thing is one was from highschool and currently married with kids, the other still single and living it up; guess if they got it good in the past they come back beggin for more. [Muaha]
Prolly not always the case though.
ETA: I could honestly care less about her past BF's bc she's mine now!
theGinsue
06-30-2010, 23:50
We celebrated our 25th anniversary in March.
Congratulations! I know first hand just how much of an accomplishment that really is. this Nov 1 will be 22 years for my wife and I. How either one of us put up with the other for so long is far beyond my understanding - only the Lord knows!
Congrats on 25 years 10x - and to BB for the first...
My first anniversay is next Saturday....
Going to Vegas...
I think we're gonna make it...
[LOL]
Wow Funkfool - its the first couple of years of marriage that are usually the toughest. Making it through the first year really is quite an accomplishment.
Congratulations to both you and BigBear! - er, for both accomplishing the same goal (I wasn't implying anything else; honest).
My wifes very first boyfriend has found her on FB. They were together for 5 years. She told me about him looking her up and gave him a pleasant "Hi. Hope you are well. I'm very happy. Goodbye". I didn't even have a flicker of jeaousy over the deal.
I knew my wifes last boyfriend. He was a dirtbag top to bottom. What she ever saw in that guy is beyond me; he must have been hung like a clydesdale. After we got married this piece of dog dung tried to hit on her over and over. He even went so far as to comment to my father-in-law that he should have been the son-in-law instead of me. This is when I found out what my father-in-law actually thought of me - he put the piece of sh!t in his place with a fantastic response (I wish I remembered what it was).
Even through all of that, I still wasn't jealous.
ETA: I could honestly care less about her past BF's bc she's mine now!
And, in the end, that is all that is important. <- This is why I was never jealous.
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