View Full Version : Paranoid? Grumpy wife!
trlcavscout
03-03-2011, 23:52
So my wife got on my case tonight about some funny driving habits. I guess with all the stuff going on anymore I am turning into a paranoid old fart.
So after going out to dinner (pinched one off at the restaurant but didnt forget the smoke wagon on crapper), went to the mall then I hit the ATM because I had to transfer a chunk of cash from checking to savings. After driving the 20 minutes or so back to my neighborhood I noticed a car following me so I made a quick turn around the block and took a scenic route around the neighborhood until I felt better. She immediately started giving me the third degree even after I explained that "we just left an ATM and a car I dont recognize has been following me for at least 10 minutes that i noticed". But all I thought about is once you pull into the drive way you are blocked in and a sitting duck with the whole family in the car and I can remember at least 3 incidents in the last few years of people being ambushed in front of their house, and it didnt work out very well for them. Maybe I watch to much news? [Beer]
Have her read this article, then tell her to shut up about your driving....or ELSE!
http://sacramento.cbslocal.com/2011/03/02/wife-holds-onto-minivan-hood-from-manteca-to-pleasanton/
Man, the things women will bitch about when you're just trying to protect the family and keep everyone safe. I feel your pain. Try talking to mine sometime about situational awareness, opening the door to strangers, etc.
HBARleatherneck
03-04-2011, 08:15
delete
[ROFL2]
It only gets better with time, or worse how ever you percieve it.
Mine is on me all the time about everything, even though she can't remember where she put her keys, but that is my fault too.
theGinsue
03-04-2011, 09:20
Yeah, I have cars follow me into and through my neighborhoob fairly often and I WILL NOT go straight to me home until I know they are well away from me before then. In most of the cases it's been a resident a few blocks away that pulls into their driveway, but in some of the cases the people never seem to find their "home". In those cases I generally find a way to follow them until they leave the neighborhood.
I have standing directions with my wife and kids to call me if they think they are being followed and to lead the followers into a neighborhood close to ours. With my big F250 I can get in behind the followers and on the couple of occasions I've had to get involved I've scared the sh!t out of a bunch of kids thinking it was fun to follow someone (no weapons were ever presented). Their idea of fun changed once they realized that the game had turned on them.
I've also ensured my family knows where the local police precincts around town are located. BG's rarely follow you into the parking lot of a police precinct.
My wife used to always accuse me of being paranoid, but she's seen me proven correct too many times now. She's finally starting to see that once my "spidey sense" tingles, something bad is usually going on.
There are a lot of very bad people out there and there are even more just plain dumba$$es that get off on trying to intimidate folks while they are behind the wheel.
Mine just knows that is how I am and stopped saying anything. In fact she is probably getting as paranoid as I am these days!
There are a lot of very bad people out there and there are even more just plain dumba$$es that get off on trying to intimidate folks while they are behind the wheel.
I don't get this... Just the other day I was driving along with my windows down (beautiful day here) and a SUV full of teenagers drove by yelling and tried to cut me off. What was the point of that? I don't get kids ideas of "fun" now-a-days.
Mobat555
03-04-2011, 09:43
The few times I have deviated our path I got an eye roll but she did not dispute it much since I had a incident once.
Luckily it was only me on my motorcycle, the people followed me from 6th and Wadsworth to 120th and federal.
Ever since I feel justified in my paranoia.
My 2 cents worth: women like to feel safe with their men. And when men start carrying guns, or making sure people aren't following them, it presents an image of danger - even though we know we have a better chance of keeping them safe when we're observant about these things.
Hmm, does that make sense?
Case and point: I think she was a little scared, and covered for it by calling you paranoid and being irate.
Keep protecting your family, it sounds like you're doing a damn good job!
Daniel_187
03-04-2011, 09:54
I tell mine to be quiet and go make me a Sandwich LOL. But really I had this happen once to me(from 66 St in longmont all the way down to my house 20 min south). and if you saw how my neighborhood was set up it was enough to throw up a lot of flags
My wife and I are equally paranoid. It's gotten worse over the years.
Ain't situational awareness a bitch?! [Constr]
TEAMRICO
03-04-2011, 10:10
When I leave the house it it like going on a Recon Patrol....old habits die hard!
I go through mental PCI/PCC's and continuously scan all avenues, choke points, ID all cars in my vicinity etc.
I do the old loop around the hood trick if needed because is they are following you they(criminals) will know exactly where you live from then on out!
Even when I'm gone, son(6) knows "The Drills" for fire, smoke, fire alarms, routes out of the house, what doors to use and what to do for the burglar alarm.
Wife knows exactly where the Saiga is and how to operate it! I tell her "Charge it hard and let it slam forward" the noise alone should scare the crap outta anyone!
Me paranoid?
Just situationally aware.
2008f450
03-04-2011, 10:31
I just made my wife read all the posts. Now she knows im not the only one. I just hope she lets me out to play with members here again[ROFL1][ROFL1]
Did you make her read that article I posted as well?
Mrs.2008f450
No 2008f450, you may not play with those boys anymore. They are a bad influence.
Byte Stryke
03-04-2011, 10:37
I guess that's a benefit to having married a filipina from Mindanao.
Abu-Sayef, New Peoples army, etc etc etc
If I Say "something doesn't feel right, we are going this way." She usually just takes Little byte up and follows, sans objection.
Better to be paraniod than dead!
I teach my kids and wife to ALWAYS evaluate their surroundings.
I can say doing so has already kept each and everyone of them from possible trouble.
Some call it paranioa I call it prepared.
Side note: Big Bear the new avatar is PIMP. lolo [Beer]
2008f450
03-04-2011, 10:44
Did you make her read that article I posted as well?
[ROFL1]No she started rolling her eyes saying "I get it you arejust protecting us from the bad of the world". I think she finally fully understands why my head is always on a swivel and every day is condition yellow. I have started teaching my 4 year old to be aware of his surroundings too.
Lex_Luthor
03-04-2011, 10:54
Side note: Big Bear the new avatar is PIMP. lolo [Beer]
People still say "pimp" these days?! [ROFL3]
People still say "pimp" these days?! [ROFL3]
Aww man how far behind am I?
[ROFL1][ROFL1][ROFL1]
Sorry for the derail Gentlemen please proceed with the paranioa.
You all live in a place that has other cars? If I see another vehicle on my drive home I start griping about traffic.
H.
She usually just takes Little byte...
Nibble?
[Coffee]
trlcavscout
03-04-2011, 11:12
When I leave the house it it like going on a Recon Patrol....old habits die hard!
I go through mental PCI/PCC's and continuously scan all avenues, choke points, ID all cars in my vicinity etc.
I do the old loop around the hood trick if needed because is they are following you they(criminals) will know exactly where you live from then on out!
Even when I'm gone, son(6) knows "The Drills" for fire, smoke, fire alarms, routes out of the house, what doors to use and what to do for the burglar alarm.
Wife knows exactly where the Saiga is and how to operate it! I tell her "Charge it hard and let it slam forward" the noise alone should scare the crap outta anyone!
Me paranoid?
Just situationally aware.
I am the same way, when I walk out my front door its game on. I can spot an odd vehicle right off the bat, like the "undercover" black charger with blacked out windows and wheels that started the stand off with the swat team down the street last week. I was walking the kids down the street to my sons friends house until I seen that car then flags went up all over the place!
HBARleatherneck
03-04-2011, 11:16
You all live in a place that has other cars? If I see another vehicle on my drive home I start griping about traffic.
H.
i can count the cars I see in most days on one hand.
Byte Stryke
03-04-2011, 11:17
Nibble?
[Coffee]
OPSEC
If you don't know my sons name, one thing less you can use.
My ex-wife used to bitch about stuff like that. It was annoying. Then, on account of her new job, we moved to a high crime ghetto and her behavior got to the point that it was actually endangering our safety. Some people you just can't reach.
If your wife is bitching about something as minor as taking a few extra minutes to circle the block, there is a problem. Problem likely involves work related stress combined with PMS and has little to do with the fact that you are driving around the block. She just wants an outlet for repressed anger, knows she can get away with it with you, and "paranoid" is a great label to put on people because there's really no way to defend against it to someone who wants someone to blame for the way she feels inside.
Sorry about your situation, man. Hope it gets better.
Byte Stryke
03-04-2011, 11:32
Oh, Just because you are paranoid, it doesn't mean that there isn't someone out to get you.
KevDen2005
03-04-2011, 12:35
So my wife got on my case tonight about some funny driving habits. I guess with all the stuff going on anymore I am turning into a paranoid old fart.
So after going out to dinner (pinched one off at the restaurant but didnt forget the smoke wagon on crapper), went to the mall then I hit the ATM because I had to transfer a chunk of cash from checking to savings. After driving the 20 minutes or so back to my neighborhood I noticed a car following me so I made a quick turn around the block and took a scenic route around the neighborhood until I felt better. She immediately started giving me the third degree even after I explained that "we just left an ATM and a car I dont recognize has been following me for at least 10 minutes that i noticed". But all I thought about is once you pull into the drive way you are blocked in and a sitting duck with the whole family in the car and I can remember at least 3 incidents in the last few years of people being ambushed in front of their house, and it didnt work out very well for them. Maybe I watch to much news? [Beer]
Why are you listening to a woman?!!
Just kidding, but in all seriousness, I have given lots of women advice similar to what you did while I was at work. They told me they thought they were being followed, and told me they were trying to get home as quickly as they could. I explained several reasons why this would be bad, not to mention none of them armed, all of them had small children with them.
Side note: Big Bear the new avatar is PIMP. lolo [Beer]
Bout time someone noticed... Thanks! lol. [Coffee]
Back to the thread:....
StagLefty
03-04-2011, 12:46
The only good advice I get anymore about my surroundings are the voices in my head. They haven't let me down yet. [Coffee]
theGinsue
03-04-2011, 12:47
She usually just takes Little byte
Nibble?
Wrong type of byte. You're thinking consumable when you should be thinking computer....
More like "bit". Of course, there are 8 bits to a byte so Byte Stryke & his wife have some work to do.
Wrong type of byte. You're thinking consumable when you should be thinking computer....
More like "bit". Of course, there are 8 bits to a byte so Byte Stryke & his wife have some work to do.
In for the EPIC thread derail this is about to become!!!
[Pop][Pepsi]
Just messin' with you Byte, bro! lol
My wife is utterly oblivious, condition white, most of the time. She wonders how I can miss something like a new doodad on the coffee table, or that she moved some furniture around the living room, but then asks me "When did someone move into XXX house down the street?". I guess I'm just attuned to that which matters, not the trivial bullshit that happens when she's in the mood to screw with interior decorating. I make note of vehicles that belong on our street(cul de sac), and she's utterly amazed that I know what the plate numbers are on vehicles that "don't belong"...
gnihcraes
03-04-2011, 21:48
Original Post: Yep, have done the same thing many times on the way home after dark, wife usually doesn't say anything, but probably thinks I'm nuts. Better safe than sorry.
I'm usually looking around at everything when driving by the house, windows, doors, the other cars, just to have One Up on anything or anyone that is hiding before I park in the driveway.
beast556
03-04-2011, 22:37
Better to be safe than sorry.
mcantar18c
03-05-2011, 02:22
Why are you listening to a woman?!!
If you kept her in the kitchen where she belongs you wouldn't have to listen to her ridiculing you for being attentive to your surroundings [Coffee]
My wife is vastly more paranoid than me. Beyond that my situational awareness, is crap. Its mostly her saying something with the premise of letting me off leash. She may as well just say "go get him boy."
We used to live in a terrible neighborhood in AZ and there was more than one night that involved me getting woken from a deep sleep by my wife. I knew the look that said "your pistol is right there, listen for a minute than go figure it out"
If you kept her in the kitchen where she belongs you wouldn't have to listen to her ridiculing you for being attentive to your surroundings [Coffee]
that's the best advice I think anyone can give about a women.
Why is a womans feet shorter than a mans? so she can stand closer to the sink.
Why is a womans feet shorter than a mans? so she can stand closer to the sink.
[ROFL2]
Q. Why do women get married in white?
A. Because all domestic appliances come in white!
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