My parents are getting up there...

[Chad4000]

This might be an old problem for some of you, but I'm just now going through it.. wow..

Dear diary (lol): my folks live in this huge 5000 plus sq ft house, 3 acres, two dogs etc. last year my dad had a cancerous brain tumer removed, and is basically on the high end of the prediction for his time left. Cant really walk, feeding himself can be an issue etc. hes 72 or 73.. my mom, is about 65 (I should know these huh? lol) and has been the caregiver..

Well she fell last night and broke her arm pretty bad. right at the wrist. will need surgery, hardware etc.

couple in the fact that my 95 year old grandmother lives with them and it's a total looney bin... (and I mean that with respect lol).. grandma doesnt know who anyone is anymore, and is ironing paper towels downstairs in her attached "apartment". My dad is upstairs, had fallen down a few times, and keeps asking people how to "google stuff" (which he used to do all the time)..

and now my mom cant really take care of herself.. it's going to be a rough little while at least I think... hahha.

[Ronin13]

Damn Chad, that sucks. My dad's in the same position as you- his parents are way up there now, my grandpa is 86 and grandma is about 80 or so... grandma gets around fine, but grandpa has trouble walking, eating, and the DMV recently refused to renew his license due to his vision. It's a scary thought when our elder loved ones get into the accelerated years- I fear the day I have to worry about my dad the way he is worrying about his parents, but we went through all of this several years ago with my mom's parents (granddad made it to 97!) and it seems to never get easier. Good luck buddy, aging is that one thing we all dread.

[aahorn]

sorry to hear chad, but i gotta say your post made me chuckle. grandma ironing paper towels is a bit funny.

[BPTactical]

A few years ago we gave a DVD player to my folks for Xmas.
A few days later my mom calls and wants to know how to rewind it..........


We LOL'd

[Robb]

Just take care of them and keep in mind, we're probably going to be in their shoes eventually.
I wish you the best.

Robb

[Ronin13]

A few years ago we gave a DVD player to my folks for Xmas.
A few days later my mom calls and wants to know how to rewind it..........


We LOL'd

My grandpa asked me that when I set their DVD player up- he said now how do we know if it's rewound?

[TS12000]

Best of luck Chad sounds like a handful

They just took my grandma's license away not too long ago because she crashed (bumped, she was going slow) into a cop car...that had it's lights on...she is also the only person I know that has ever been ticketed for going too slow on a highway.

[Musashi]

Sorry to hear that Chad. I hope things get better sooner rather than later. I got to deal with some fun stuff with my dad last year, it is never easy.

[Great-Kazoo]

check with medicare regarding in home health care. They should cover it. I had to deal with stuff like this end of the year, only i'm here and everyone else is back on the real coast

[DD977GM2]

Look into in home care giver that can have someone there 24/7 and usually medicaid will pay majority for it.

[Chad4000]

thanks for all the kind words guys!!!

and medicaid is a good idea.. just starting to think about all this stuff..... yikes..

I tell ya man,, cutting up my dads food last night is more then I do for my 2 year old anymore.... kind of surreal in a way. I look over at one point and his hand is resting in the mash potatoes.... :(

gotta keep a positive outlook and keep the sense of humor about it... thats what my dad would want!!! hahahaa

[zteknik]

Chad all you can do is be there for them and help out anyway you can.

I missed the opurtunity to be with my Dad due to being deployed overseas.I had the misfortune to get home just in time to see him on his deathbed,and hrs later pass away.

I regret not being there to help out.
My Mom was a hospice nurse and after she took care of terminaly ill patients she would take care of Dad.I regret not being there to help out.
I do not wish that on anyone.

It will be tough but stay strong and show them love.

[DD977GM2]

Chad all you can do is be there for them and help out anyway you can.


This is sound advice. If your parents dont understand now, they will subconsiously or in the afterlife.

Tell them everything you have ever wanted to tell them and as often as possible.
They will hear you in some way.

[sniper7]

just remember we will eventually be in that situation more than likely and think how you would want to be treated! Do your best for them!

I lol'd at the hand in the mashed potatoes and the paper towel ironing! that is good stuff!

[rockhound]

that is a rough road to follow, I have been there with grandparents in the past.

Nothing like having to wipe grandpa, remember that if in your shoes they would do it for you.

unfortunately for us all we will be there ourselves far too soon

[Chad4000]

just remember we will eventually be in that situation more than likely and think how you would want to be treated! Do your best for them!

I lol'd at the hand in the mashed potatoes and the paper towel ironing! that is good stuff!

Lol.. It does get funny.. My dad still laughs himself....lol

[Irving]

Make sure your home care people aren't stealing from your parents though.

My mom sent me a horrible picture of my grandma's leg all cut up for surgery today.

[Chad4000]

Mom doing ok...surgery now set for tomorrow. They will probably keep her over night. My mom wants my dad to be there lol.. I know thats not funny, but I will have my son, and my dad oin a waiting room for a couple hours morrow lol.... I'll probably just lock em both in there and let then entertain eachother haha