Would you do business with a rude/obnoxious person?

[cysoto]

At my age, I have come to the sad realization that I cannot like every person whom I come across. Even though most internet forums are full of really nice people, there are always a few exceptions. It seems like in every forum I frequent there are always an a-hole or two who's only reason to be there is to be unnecessarily confrontational or, in some cases, just plain rude.

So my questions is: say that you put an item up for sale through the classifieds section of an internet gun forum and the first person to reply is one of these obnoxious individuals; do you proceed to do business with this person or do you ignore him and go on to the next person in line? And also, if you choose to not sell the item to them, do you let them know the reason why you are doing so or do you simply pretend that their request never came through?

[birddog]

I've had that Experiance but once I met the dude he was real nice.

[pdr240]

I've had the same realization about people in general ... tough situation in the forum though. Have you actually met said R&O person or just read their comments. It's often easy to misunderstand humor and sarcasm online without disclaimers. How badly do you want to sell, the transaction wit R&O should be fairly quick but I suspect your dilemma comes because you're not R&O. Can't conrol any but yourself whuich hard enough? Good luck man.

[Fentonite]

I think you have the right to deal with whomever you choose. If you don't want to sell to him, don't. But if it were me, I'd tell them "no thanks" (or something). Pretty weak constitution to just "pretend" you didn't get their offer.

[CUatTheEnd]

I would tell him thanks but no thanks and proceed with "I appreciate your interests in my product, however, I have decided to sell my product to a person whom I feel more comfortable with. Your obnoxious and rude emails do not interest me. Thanks again and good luck with your future purchases."

The only way to correct it is to let them hear it.

[HBARleatherneck]

delete

[Scanker19]

Depends if the asshole is paying full price or not.

I can usually get over myself enough to tolerate lowball offers, however couple that with snide, rude, or condescending remarks about said products and I may not reply to you at all.

[alxone]

ill tolerate some rudeness but at a point ill just tell them to pound sand . my need for money will never out weigh my dignity .

[BPTactical]

Money is green even if it comes from an asshole.

I don't let it bother me unless they direct their attitude to me personally.
I am conducting a business transaction with them, not trying to be buddy-wuddy.
That's all it is, business.

[Fentonite]

Money is green even if it comes from an asshole.

I am conducting a business transaction with them, not trying to be buddy-wuddy.
That's all it is, business.

I always wondered why you were willing to do business with an asshole like me! Now I get it! [Coffee]

[BPTactical]

I always wondered why you were willing to do business with an asshole like me! Now I get it! [Coffee]

But your reputation preceded you. I knew going in what to expect[ROFL2]

[Irving]

People always think I am a sarcastic a-hole on here, but are usually surprised to find out I don't present like that in person. If they are specifically rude toward you, then no. If you just don't like their e-persona, it's probably not a big deal.

[Ronin13]

I do business all the time with rude/obnoxious people at my job, so I guess I could do business with an a-hole... but even if I have some minor issues with a person on here I'd probably still rather do business with someone from here than a random via GunBroker or Armslist. [Beer]

Yes, that includes Jim! [Tooth]

[BushMasterBoy]

I would NOT sell a firearm to somebody if I thought I would end up in some legal trouble over it. If they are rude and obnoxious, it is usually a reflection of their character. Would you sell your car to a drunk guy? I have turned down lots of sales to UNQUALIFIED buyers. If you think the transaction may come back to haunt you, don't do it. Some people will do anything to make a buck...

[cysoto]

I would tell him thanks but no thanks and proceed with "I appreciate your interests in my product, however, I have decided to sell my product to a person whom I feel more comfortable with. Your obnoxious and rude emails do not interest me. Thanks again and good luck with your future purchases."

The only way to correct it is to let them hear it.

I should have added to my original post that this is not something that has happened to me. I mentioned it because a friend of mine had this experience while trying to sell a high-dollar item on an internet gun forum that is well known for having a high concentration of a-holes and, the first person to reply was someone who he had on his "ignore" list.

Nonetheless, I really like what CUatTheEnd said above! [Beer]

[Great-Kazoo]

Se Habla CASH. I am color and attitude blind when it comes to CASH.
Now if you try and dick me around on a price we agreed upon, once we meet, a polite fvk you and you will be getting off easy.

[HoneyBadger]

I think the real question you need to ask is this:

How badly do they want to give you their money?

[Delfuego]

Is he from New York? If so take no offense, its just their way...[Muaha]

[CUatTheEnd]

I should have added to my original post that this is not something that has happened to me. I mentioned it because a friend of mine had this experience while trying to sell a high-dollar item on an internet gun forum that is well known for having a high concentration of a-holes and, the first person to reply was someone who he had on his "ignore" list.

Nonetheless, I really like what CUatTheEnd said above! [Beer]


[Beer] You bet. If he continues to hold true to his R&O he'll probably "F" bomb your buddy. [Luck]

[J]

I'm mixed on this, and some of the comments here. This board has generally been good (and I get to see/hear about most of the deals (while very few) that anger someone). Get ready to hear your name, because I'm using examples from here!

Some points:
1. To the original question, I would say it depends on the severity of their rude or obnoxious behavior. I don't think anyone would trade with Ridge if this was a sweeping statement... his pony policies can be obnoxious after a stressful day. However most of us realize this is done in good fun/jest and are ok with that and perhaps chuckle from time to time on better days. However, if it is someone who is bad enough that I have considered using the ban hammer on, no frickin way. If they meet those criteria, they are not a person I want to have any interaction with whatsoever.

2. To me, it is important to determine whether the behavior will be likely with the transaction. I'm sure there are a few people here who are not huge fans of Jim. But it is easy to see that he simply has little patience for those that don't help themselves or those that continue on certain paths and decisions strings he doesn't agree with. These are not things that will affect me during a possible sale between us.

3. As has been said, some of us (including that dick who is arrogant enough to temporarily change the username minimum limit from 3 characters to 1 for the username "J", just for just himself, and then back) are sarcastic bastards. It is important to distinguish this from malicious a-holes.

4. While I agree with Jim's statement 100%, a decided deal is a decided deal! But before the deal is agreed upon, I am a capitalist. I am often going to make an offer that makes the deal enticing to me. I expect others to do the same. This goes for selling or buying. It happens all the time in real-estate, and in cross-reference a guy here who has cash, good feedback and is generally well known may actually be a better choice than someone else even if their offer is slightly lower. I let the seller determine this.

4a. Point #4 particularly irks me, as I've seen it happen but not generally with me... If you don't like the offer as a seller, say "No Thanks" or counter offer. Don't get offended. Likewise if you don't like a listing price, make and offer that can be accepted or counter offered or just move on. As they say "There is nothing personal in business". I can say with definite fact that there have been several deals I have done here. They were things that I "kinda wanted" but didn't really need. I figured if I could get it for a good price it would be worth having or at least testing and then selling again if I didn't like it. These people wanted quick and reputable buyers, and that was enough to make my offer agreeable or give a counter-offer. Nothing wrong with that. People need to stop getting butt hurt over somewhat high list prices or somewhat low offers.

5. In the end, everyone's money spends the same. If I'm on the edge, I'll side with doing the deal. Only the most unsavory will get a no thanks from me. This of course excludes any who I think may be scammers, potential criminals, or severly unsafe and irresponsible. They get an instant No.

[Monky]

just tell them... "I dont like you" and then sell to somebody else. Everyone is a dick online. Everyone is a tough guy online. Of course they are nice when you meet them in person, they dont want their ass kicked for acting like an idiot.

But you're so cuddly and not abrasive.. :)


I should have added to my original post that this is not something that has happened to me. I mentioned it because a friend of mine had this experience while trying to sell a high-dollar item on an internet gun forum that is well known for having a high concentration of a-holes and, the first person to reply was someone who he had on his "ignore" list.

Nonetheless, I really like what CUatTheEnd said above! [Beer]

I know this is what you say.. but what asshole tried to buy your Glock!

[sniper7]

I have denied selling to two individuals on here due to my dislike for their viewpoints.

I've got one life to live and I will deal with the people I want to.

[cysoto]

I know this is what you say.. but what asshole tried to buy your Glock!

Ha, ha!! No, that was not the case at all... The gentleman who is purchasing it is not only a long-time board member but also a personal friend.

[tmleadr03]

just tell them... "I dont like you" and then sell to somebody else. Everyone is a dick online. Everyone is a tough guy online. Of course they are nice when you meet them in person, they dont want their ass kicked for acting like an idiot.

Ask around, I am more of an ass in person then I am online.


As to the OP, yes, I do business with COAR15 members on a regular basis.[Tooth]

[gnihcraes]

Has said person posted on this thread? Just curious...

[DangerLee_Industries]

If I smell drama I simply walk away when buying or selling...

[Bailey Guns]

I don't take anything said on the forums here personally. I get into all kinds of arguments, especially of the political type, with many on this forum. But that's online...not in real life.

I don't expect anyone on a forum (mostly this one since it's really the only one I post on) to come across like their online persona for a variety of reasons.

So, my opinion on the question would be: if it's a solid deal, with a solid buyer/seller, I'll do it as long as the other person is willing. I really don't hold anything said in discussions on the forum against anyone.

Hell...I have some pretty distinct differences of opinion on some topics with my wife. Doesn't mean much in the grand scheme of things.

[Mazin]

Well for me part of buying is enjoying the experience, if the other person is a DB then I won't enjoy the product. So no I wouldn't sell to or buy from a person I felt was a DB. Just move on to the next in line, unless you want to get into an argument don't respond to the DB .