EE Newbie rant

[DD977GM2]

So I get a pm from a new person, they have what I want. I have what they want.
I didnt respond in time due to work and being out of town.

I tell the person Id like to figure it out when I get back to town in a couple weeks.

Well I never heard back from them and I notice the item is gone.

When did common courtesy go out of the window?? The time at which I received the PM
and that I responded was a no more that 35 -40 minutes.
I never received any response and only noticed this morning that the item was gone.

This is one of those times I feel that negative feedback is warrented. Only reason is due to the newness of the person.

At anyrate that my shitty rant. [Bang][Rant1][Bang][Rant1][Bang][Rant1]

[Ronin13]

C'mon Gabe- you can do better... put in a little more cursing, use some colorful language describing this person (maybe dog them out publicly here, give us a name [Coffee]- Kidding)...

I give it a 7/10... and that's only because you admitted it was a shitty rant! [Beer][Tooth]

[Aloha_Shooter]

I'm missing something from the rant. Just for clarification, it went something like this?

H: Newbie PMs you saying they want to do a trade.
H+35 min: You respond saying you want 2 weeks to figure it out.
H+24 hrs: You notice item is gone.

I guess I just don't understand why you think this deserves negative feedback. You told the guy you wanted to wait 2 weeks, he decided to pull chocks. It would be nice if he'd responded saying, "sorry, I don't want to wait that long" but it seems to me that's (unfortunately) uncommon courtesy. If I told someone I wanted them to wait a couple weeks for me to figure out whether I wanted to trade or buy their stuff, I wouldn't expect a response however much I'd like to get one.

[hghclsswhitetrsh]

http://www.ar-15.co/forums/showthread.php?t=68851

[Canuckistani]

Why on earth would someone wait 2 weeks or more for you to make up your mind? First person with cash or trade in hand gets it, imo.

If I tell everyone in the trading post, "Hey, I think I want your item, but gimme 2 weeks to decide, k?" I'm pretty sure they'll all tell me to pound sand, and rightfully so.

[DD977GM2]

I'm missing something from the rant. Just for clarification, it went something like this?

H: Newbie PMs you saying they want to do a trade.
H+35 min: You respond saying you want 2 weeks to figure it out.
H+24 hrs: You notice item is gone.

I guess I just don't understand why you think this deserves negative feedback. You told the guy you wanted to wait 2 weeks, he decided to pull chocks. It would be nice if he'd responded saying, "sorry, I don't want to wait that long" but it seems to me that's (unfortunately) uncommon courtesy. If I told someone I wanted them to wait a couple weeks for me to figure out whether I wanted to trade or buy their stuff, I wouldn't expect a response however much I'd like to get one.


I wont be home for 2 weeks so how the hell am I going to do the trade.
I was busy at a rig and just sent that quick response.
There is no reply for anything. thats what Im getting at. Communication on
this person is probably not their strong suit.
Look at my feedback, this isnt my first rodeo. [Bang][Bang][Bang][Bang]

[DD977GM2]

Why on earth would someone wait 2 weeks or more for you to make up your mind? First person with cash or trade in hand gets it, imo.

If I tell everyone in the trading post, "Hey, I think I want your item, but gimme 2 weeks to decide, k?" I'm pretty sure they'll all tell me to pound sand, and rightfully so.

I work in the fucking oilfield. Im here one day and gone the next. I have had plenty of folks
who have politely declined or waited X amount of time due to me being in North Dakota or bum fuck Texas.

The fact the person didnt respond is why i wanna leave neg feedback.
Pure bullshit in my opinion. Id leave the common courtesy for them.

[Canuckistani]

I work in the fucking oilfield. Im here one day and gone the next. I have had plenty of folks
who have politely declined or waited X amount of time due to me being in North Dakota or bum fuck Texas.

The fact the person didnt respond is why i wanna leave neg feedback.
Pure bullshit in my opinion. Id leave the common courtesy for them.

It's a called courtesy for a reason - someone should do it, but they don't have to. If they did, it'd be called a common necessity, wouldn't it?

Should they have let you know? Sure, would have been nice. I don't think they're required to however, and I think leaving them negative feedback over it is a bit of a puss move just because your panties are in a wad. Put your big girl dress on, get over it, and move on.

[fitz19d]

That you are not free for 2 weeks is your life circumstance not his. Especially if you guys didn't work out a firm 100% deal. I'm in taiwan for 2 weeks, it would be crazy to tell someone hey I might want this when I'm back hold onto it. Recently I had an offer and I had to wait a few days to figure if it would work with a 3rd party. Offer dried up, my prblem for not getting it in stone quicker.

Its frustrating for sure ill give you that. Just like I was, but the anger shouldn't be at them for addressing their own needs. (Barring a firm agreement)

[Ronin13]

I work in the fucking oilfield. Im here one day and gone the next. I have had plenty of folks
who have politely declined or waited X amount of time due to me being in North Dakota or bum fuck Texas.

The fact the person didnt respond is why i wanna leave neg feedback.
Pure bullshit in my opinion. Id leave the common courtesy for them.

Now that's how you rant! [Beer]
I say leave negative feedback. It's one thing to say "Sorry I'd rather not wait 2 weeks," it's another to not even respond! [Bang]

[HoneyBadger]

Wow... C'mon people, did you forget to take your Midol this morning? Chill out!

[DD977GM2]

That you are not free for 2 weeks is your life circumstance not his. Especially if you guys didn't work out a firm 100% deal. I'm in taiwan for 2 weeks, it would be crazy to tell someone hey I might want this when I'm back hold onto it. Recently I had an offer and I had to wait a few days to figure if it would work with a 3rd party. Offer dried up, my prblem for not getting it in stone quicker.

Its frustrating for sure ill give you that. Just like I was, but the anger shouldn't be at them for addressing their own needs. (Barring a firm agreement)

When I made the offer I wasnt slated to leave.
Schedule can change at a moments notice. If I didnt make offers when
I came across them, Id never have a chance to buy from local folks.

[MrPrena]

Man ... It really sucks to have a bad experience with EE , especially small tight forum like this.
I had a similar experience like this about 4 years ago here.
I was the seller. I politely messages him, and he was unhappy.
It was fine Upto that, but this guy was trashing my sales thread. Thankfully , mod took cared of that one within a day. :)

I let time heal. I had bad experience on arf website for local deal. Butt welched. It is a negative feedback there for welching, but I decided to let it go. Of course I was damn pissed, but Shit happens sometimes. :(

[ronaldrwl]

I would say to not leave negative feedback for this. I've sold items on Craigslist and have received dozens of inquiries. I'll sell it to the first person and ignore the rest after taking down the listing. I would expect more here but would not be to surprised to not receive a pm.

[kwando]

I would say to not leave negative feedback for this. I've sold items on Craigslist and have received dozens of inquiries. I'll sell it to the first person and ignore the rest after taking down the listing. I would expect more here but would not be to surprised to not receive a pm.

CL is different than here IMO... if i am dealing with a newbie with <10 posts i will be cautious, but for someone that has a history and feedback that is a different.

[hatidua]

Courtesy issues aside, two weeks in the internet age might as well be six months.

[jackthewall81]

Wow... C'mon people, did you forget to take your Midol this morning? Chill out!

No kidding. Not a big deal.

Chill out ladies.

[DD977GM2]

I would say to not leave negative feedback for this. I've sold items on Craigslist and have received dozens of inquiries. I'll sell it to the first person and ignore the rest after taking down the listing. I would expect more here but would not be to surprised to not receive a pm.


This isnt craigslist though. We are a tight community. Its funny how one
guy on her buys XYZ firearm and trades it for CBA firearm then eventally gets back
XYZ firearm from a 4th person.

Im not posting neg feedback as much s Id like to. Never was the intention.

[Punkface]

If there was no deal set in stone then I don't think negative feedback is deserved.

[Great-Kazoo]

So I get a pm from a new person, they have what I want. I have what they want.
I didnt respond in time due to work and being out of town.

I tell the person Id like to figure it out when I get back to town in a couple weeks.

Well I never heard back from them and I notice the item is gone.

When did common courtesy go out of the window?? The time at which I received the PM
and that I responded was a no more that 35 -40 minutes.
I never received any response and only noticed this morning that the item was gone.

This is one of those times I feel that negative feedback is warrented. Only reason is due to the newness of the person.

At anyrate that my shitty rant. [Bang][Rant1][Bang][Rant1][Bang][Rant1]

No commitment to purchase. However an acknowledgement of your touching bases would have been nice. Still you did not commit to purchase so there is no basis for negative feed back.
IIRC. The EE rules does not have a "common Courtesy" clause

[DD977GM2]

No commitment to purchase. However an acknowledgement of your touching bases would have been nice. Still you did not commit to purchase so there is no basis for negative feed back.
IIRC. The EE rules does not have a "common Courtesy" clause

Then they need one damnit [ROFL1]

[StagLefty]

It would have been a courtesy but that doesn't seem popular anymore [Coffee]

[BPTactical]

If there was no deal set in stone then I don't think negative feedback is deserved.

This.
IMHO without a given commitment such as "I will take it" then yes, the N feedback is not appropriate.

I will agree a touch of decency and courtesy would go a loooooong way and prevent many ills of the EE.

One thing I can't stand, when you see an item posted with no replys such as "ill take it" or similar and decide you will take it.
You send a PM and post you will take it only to find somebody snagged it 2 hours prior.[Bang]
If you have an interest or are going to take it post as such in the original post.

[Bailey Guns]

Had a noob PM/Txt me asking if my item was still available. He said he was in Vail and could do a FtF if it was. I replied promptly that it was available via PM and Txt.

Not another peep from the guy.

Is that rude? Yeah, it is, in my opinion. But I don't think it deserves negative feedback.

[sniper7]

You should probably look at your own PM box and i bet you find a commitment to purchase then an excuse to back out in there.
i hardly think a noobie not wanting to wait 2 weeks and not bothering to respond is worth negative feedback.

Sometimes its better to let it go. [Beer]

[Scanker19]

When did it become the EE? We're not "those" "guys" on that other "site."