Holiday seasons are tough

[glock21]

Its that time of year and all i can think of is my mom and dad passing. All the what ifs and not seeing them. I hate this time of year so much but i smile for my kids. My wife and i couldnt make it work and that hurts just as much. I cant keep smiling like everything is ok but all the crying in the world doesnt change the past. I hate to isolate myself but thats the only way i know. Sorry to vent but i needed to.

[JohnnyEgo]

Fake it for the kids.
Vent here.
I am very sorry for your loss.

[sneakerd]

What is...is. Take a deep breath and tough it out.[Weight]

[zteknik]

I understand.I was like that for a long time after Pop's passing.
With time it gets a bit easier.

[glock21]

What is...is. Take a deep breath and tough it out.[Weight]

Haha thanks. I think ill be ok after my girls come back from vacation.

[mackbamf]

At times it can bring tears to my eyes just thinking about the good times I had with my parents during Christmas when I was a kid. I still have my parents here and can't imagine what the holidays will be like without them. Keep the good memories alive and a smile on your face for your kids. Remember that you are creating the memories with your kids now that they will be looking back on when they get older. One thing I try to keep in mind is that I hope I can create the same happy holiday times that my kids can reflect on in the same way I do when I look back. Vent it here, know that you are not alone...

[PugnacAutMortem]

Might I suggest a mighty fine whiskey and a delicious cigar to take your mind off of things if not but just for a few hours. I know some relaxation time does wonders when I start getting in a funk about family stuff.

Hang in there man. Also, I would suggest a desk pop tomorrow at work. Go into the weekend with a bang.

[brutal]

Thanksgiving is bittersweet for us as well. Lost my pa 4 years ago Nov 24. He was often a mean sob, but he was my mean sob. We're just happy we were there at the end and there for my mom.

You have to be strong for your kids and other family.


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[Great-Kazoo]

Hear ya. Coming up on 1 year for both mom and brother. Looks like dad is undecided where he wants to go.
I joke that my mothers passing was her way of getting out of sending christmas cards! Towards the end she would call and apologize about forgetting b-day, anniversary cards etc. Always told her I hope the next one you send has a check , because the last one was empty!

Weirdest thing with both of them................. 2 days after we laid our mother to rest my wife gets an e-mail from her, apologizing for not sending her a b-day card. Even weirder.....The e-mail was dated that day!!!
3 weeks after our brother is laid to rest, the phone rings and on the tv screen is says Call from John. Freaked us out. Every once and a while 2 small bright lights will appear in the house, one a little brighter than the other. Just letting us know they are still with us in spirit.
You want to shoot the shit pm me, i'm here.

[glock21]

Thanks guys. My dad passed dec 28. He kept his resturant open during the holidays to feed peiple with no family or familys down on their luck. He was a amazing man. He was having a heart attack but refused to close down. He passed away four block from the hospital in greeley cause he waited to long. He was a angel on earth.

2 months later my mom goes in gor lasik eye surgery and went home. She kept calling me to come over that night but i kept making excuses. The called 3 times but i said no. When my phone rang at 6am i was mad cause i thought it was her. How i wish it was her cause they told me my mom died that night. I cant forgive myself for making excuses the night before.

[Big Wall]

I lost my Mom going on 4 years ago now. She was the glue that kept the rest of the family seeing each other. My Dad got married and moved away soon after she passed. Now I see one brother regularly, talk to one of my brothers and one sister every once in a while. My other sister only calls when she needs something and I haven't seen or heard from my 3rd brother for around 3 years. I just concentrate on having a great Christmas with my wife and boys.

Hang in there for your kids.

[sneakerd]

My father died the day after Christmas, year 2000. Massive heart attack, completely unprepared, 4:30am. I was there (NC), beating on his chest, mouth to mouth, whole deal. My co-workers at the time would tell you I was a broken man for the better part of a year. You just get over it. It ain't easy, it just is.

I never, ever told my father that I loved him. Never in his entire life. I've said it a thousand times since.

[Ah Pook]

Might I suggest a mighty fine whiskey and a delicious cigar to take your mind off of things if not but just for a few hours. I know some relaxation time does wonders when I start getting in a funk about family stuff.

Hang in there man. Also, I would suggest a desk pop tomorrow at work. Go into the weekend with a bang.
He quit drinking nine years ago.

Sad time of year but it will get better. Keep the kids close.


Edit:
Three new posts by the time I hit the go button. Guess I'm just slow.

[glock21]

That has to be tough. Talking about it does help. Im glad im a member on this forum. Great guys.

[sneakerd]

Being alone were the worst times. You just go over and over it in your mind. Don't isolate yourself. It will just make it harder.

[van7559]

Isolation makes everything ten times worse for me. Enjoy your kids and make sure they know you love them. This is bar none the toughest holiday season I have seen in my short 27 years on this earth. With my marriage hanging on by a thread, dad diagnosed with cancer, and wondering what my kids may go through if shit goes sout it is started to break me down. Depths I never thought I would reach. But I ain't done fighting yet....backed into a corner but not out of the fight yet. Hang in there man. The lord will test us in ways that may seem sick and twisted, but he gives you the strength to overcome the demons of life.

[Mazin]

Hey man if you wanna hang out and shoot the shit sometime just hit me up!

[spleify]

Hey god bless ya pal if you ever need a brother to talk to let me know.

[GilpinGuy]

Hey man if you wanna hang out and shoot the shit sometime just hit me up!

Same here bro. Maybe hanging for a while talking Jeeps/guns over some coffee one of these days. You still got that Mad Max Cherokee? I love that thing!

[roberth]

My heart goes out to you. Hang in there. Prayers sent.

[hghclsswhitetrsh]

I feel your pain. From September - January I struggle. I lost my brother, dad, mom, close uncle, and our most recent loss. My only advice is don't take it out on the ones closest to you. Find your happiness(that is okay to do) and keep their memories alive. Keep your chin up.