The wife is clueless.

So we had the 4 month wellness check and shots for our baby boy yesterday. One of the questions was do you have any guns in your home. I had talked to her about this and that the answer is in fact always a "No" because it isn't any of their damned business. She answers "Yes," but at least had the sense to say "Yes" to the follow-up question about them being secured etc.

I have never been so pissed off at this woman, ever. On the way home I start talking to her about why it was none of their business, and she goes off on this spiel about the social and physical wellness of a child and how firearms in the house impact social development...my blood boiled.

So I asked the question what about alcohol or drugs, why didn't they ask about that, or hell why not ask what cleaning agents we use too. She still has no clue why I am so angry about the issue, and largely just thinks I am being paranoid.

I am still so fucking mad about the whole thing today.

So any suggestions on how to help her understand? because at the moment I am distracted by how irritated I am at the situation

I have a newborn baby, I think it's a dumb question to ask parents. It's none of the doctors business if someone has guns in their house.

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Originally Posted by glock74

I have a newborn baby, I think it's a dumb question to ask parents. It's none of the doctors business if someone has guns in their house.

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Going with this.

firearms in the house dosent impact social development one way or the other IMO how could it?

best bet with your wife would be to just drop it.... my wife was crazy postpartum at that time and HATED my guns (even though she loved them before and again after a year or so) that doctor sucks though our country docs never asked us

I am going to have to disagree with most gun owners on this. It is very much the doctors job and business to know about any potential risks to the baby or any other patient. If you want a doctor to "mind their own business" and not care about the child head down to Tijuana and get the baby delivered behind a taco stand for 15 bucks with a 20 dollar purchase.

Also I think the fact that people feel the need to lie to their doctor about something like gun ownership means either you are ashamed of your guns, or you don't trust your doctor. Either way it's time to make a change.

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Originally Posted by cofi

my wife was crazy postpartum at that time

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this.... same here.....

woman.... ahem.... go crazy...............

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Originally Posted by akumadiavolo

I am going to have to disagree with most gun owners on this. It is very much the doctors job and business to know about any potential risks to the baby or any other patient. If you want a doctor to "mind their own business" and not care about the child head down to Tijuana and get the baby delivered behind a taco stand for 15 bucks with a 20 dollar purchase.

Also I think the fact that people feel the need to lie to their doctor about something like gun ownership means either you are ashamed of your guns, or you don't trust your doctor. Either way it's time to make a change.

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ooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooorrrrrrrrrrrr how about you jusf offer the information up to your doctor next time you see him, and that way, the doctors wouldnt have to ask and the rest of us wouldnt have to deal with the intrusive nature of the question.

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Originally Posted by akumadiavolo

I am going to have to disagree with most gun owners on this. It is very much the doctors job and business to know about any potential risks to the baby or any other patient. If you want a doctor to "mind their own business" and not care about the child head down to Tijuana and get the baby delivered behind a taco stand for 15 bucks with a 20 dollar purchase.

Also I think the fact that people feel the need to lie to their doctor about something like gun ownership means either you are ashamed of your guns, or you don't trust your doctor. Either way it's time to make a change.

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OK, please tell us why don't they ask if you are a regular drinker or if you do drugs? Why don't they ask if you have dangerous exotic pets such as a rattlesnake collection? Do they ask if you have a pool or a hot tub? More children are negatively affected by abusive households than firearms.

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Originally Posted by akumadiavolo

I am going to have to disagree with most gun owners on this. It is very much the doctors job and business to know about any potential risks to the baby or any other patient. If you want a doctor to "mind their own business" and not care about the child head down to Tijuana and get the baby delivered behind a taco stand for 15 bucks with a 20 dollar purchase.

Also I think the fact that people feel the need to lie to their doctor about something like gun ownership means either you are ashamed of your guns, or you don't trust your doctor. Either way it's time to make a change.

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Are you on the right forum ?

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Originally Posted by akumadiavolo

I am going to have to disagree with most gun owners on this. It is very much the doctors job and business to know about any potential risks to the baby or any other patient. If you want a doctor to "mind their own business" and not care about the child head down to Tijuana and get the baby delivered behind a taco stand for 15 bucks with a 20 dollar purchase.

Also I think the fact that people feel the need to lie to their doctor about something like gun ownership means either you are ashamed of your guns, or you don't trust your doctor. Either way it's time to make a change.

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^^^^^BAN HIM!!!!

jk...but I disagree with your disagree. Doctors are not my parents, counselors, etc etc. Baby goes in with a rash, doctor can ask what might have caused rash. Baby goes in and is a little heavy or light for that age, doctor can ask about a diet. If mom is having some postpartum issues, then and maybe then, the doctor could advise the spouse on those matters. Doctor doesn't need to know about my security system, if I lock my deadbolt, or how I protect my family. Doctors can have a god complex all they want but that doesn't make them all knowing.

BTW-I don't have kids.

As for OP....send her to her room without dinner! (good luck with that)