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I went through a divorce a few years ago. My best advice would be to get them out of the house now. Once you are out of the house getting anything that was left behind takes an act of god. Once they are in your posession you can negotiate to keep them all as part of the settlement.
I used to be married to a psycho also, so I can relate.
Good luck.
Get pictures with a newspaper showing todays date
as proof that there are guns. That way that it will be less likely they disappear.
If you are removed from the home on a restraining order it will be to late.
In my first divorce I removed the guns, but was compelled to provide a list with estimated value. When the order came down I was fortunate that her attorney and the judge required they be sold and the proceeds divided evenly.
A notarized bill of sale was provided along with a money order for fifty cents. However, the resulting noise from her attorney was silenced by the judge after my attorney successfully argued that I had fulfilled the requirements of the order as specifically written by her attorney and approved by the judge.
My second divorce was much easier. We'd already been separated for a year and the property divided.
after the fact, man, it's rough. best thing is to barter for something she is desperate for in return for equitable stuff, the firearms. The best way is at the beginning of the relationship, prenup.
When I got divorced from a psycho in Tennessee I learned a few things that may or may not apply to you.Quote:
Originally Posted by rondog
1) Everything that you don't change immediately may be frozen until the divorce is final. What I mean is this. Once the papers are served you can't change your will, your life insurance, if you're on a joint policy for car insurance you can't cancel it even if you're the one that's paying for it. That also means that if you have marital property it can't be disposed of once papers are served. So I could have sold my guns for a low, but 1/2 way reasonable price to protect them, but fortunately she didn't think about those as marital property. Oddly enough she claimed my rear differential on my off road play toy, a built Dana 44, as marital property.
2) She had assaulted me, tore my shirt, left some nail scrappings on my neck, but I didn't press charges, though I did call the police at the time. This worked out well for me since she wanted to claim misdemeanor domestic spouse abuse, and you know what that does to your ability to own a gun. She learned about that little trick from her attorney. I agreed not to file charges, which mine were documented, if she dropped her claim with her attorney before it went any further. See, I told you that she was a pyscho! And to answer the question before it's asked, there was no infidelity on either of our parts, at least not that I know about.
There was something else that I was going to say and it slipped my mind. Sorry to hear about the divorce, but sometimes they are a necessary evil.
Yeah, it's called "vodka". She loves that shit.Quote:
Originally Posted by hurley842002
Off the top of my head, I can think of at least four guys going through breakups from this site right now. I really hope that it works out better over the long haul for all of you.Quote:
Originally Posted by hurley842002
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Originally Posted by rondog
be careful Brother...
in a divorce, count on someone watching everything you do and write.
I agree completely, My ex fiance's ex husband had everything about me printed out when he tried (very unsuccessfully) to get a restraining order on me so I couldn't be around his children. I was surprised at all the pictures, writing and info he found online about me.Quote:
Originally Posted by Byte Stryke
Be wary of what you put out there for all to see.
Firearms.. What firearms??