Divorce, so close!

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Originally Posted by JoeT

good for you man...I've been married 17 years and the night before my wedding, my wife's grandfather pulled me aside.

he said "getting divorced is easy, staying married is hard work...but it's worth it"

his wife passed away last year after 70 years together

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This is true. My folks have been married for 62 years. My wife and I have been married 25.
I asked my dad early on how they did it.
Love is not enough, it takes hard work, wanting it to work and thinking about something greater than yourself.

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Originally Posted by foxtrot

No offense intended, but you're not too likely to know if a couple ultimately splits up a year and a half after your groups sessions. Not like they are going to give you a cold call and yell at ya.

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No offense taken. I didn't mention that we follow up with these people for years and years. We would indeed know.

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Originally Posted by BPTactical

This is true. My folks have been married for 62 years. My wife and I have been married 25.
I asked my dad early on how they did it.
Love is not enough, it takes hard work, wanting it to work and thinking about something greater than yourself.

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+1 It is probably the most difficult endeavor, business partnerships are easier because people don't get their feelings hurt with direct language.

Prayers for you, and congratulations.

Man I wish my dad did what you just did. Keep fighting hard for your family.

GREAT news! Too easy to take the divorce road. Every single older couple I have EVER talked to says it takes a lot of work, sacrifice, fights etc to make it work. Not every day, every month, every year is going to be perfect, but neither is life.

Even the hottest chicks you ever see out there have some guy who is tired of her shit.

That is great man, I am very happy for you. The wife and I went through the same thing. Ended up in counseling for a year, It taught me that I was still in love with her too! I know it's cleche, but live everyday like its your last with her, and more important Don't go to bed mad! That has helped me so much.

Good Luck with your future with her Brother![Beer]

right on ! its always nice to know that people still try to work it out [Beer]

I was in your shoes back in '99 - 10 years into my marriage. Until the point where I almost lost my wife and kids I had been an @$$ and taken them for granted. She was adament about a divorce.

I made a lot of personal changes. We finally got some marrital counseling (which helped her realize that she was a part of the problem in the relationship and it wasn't all me).

I never knew such pain in my life as the pain I experienced when I thought I'd lost them forever and that I loved them more than anything else.

It took hard work. It took time (hell, we're still "working on it" to this day). The result is that we are closer and relationally better of every day that passes than we ever were. There was a lot of pain and hurt along the way, but never as bad as the first 10 years of our marriage.

One needs only sit quietly and really consider what is truly important in their life & decide if the effort is worth it. Of course, it takes both members to remain committed for it to work.

Glock21, I'm thrilled to hear that you and your wife are giving yourselves another chance. Don't believe for an instant that it won't be hard work and that there won't still be pain. Part of love is pain & work. But, if this is something that you've both truly committed to above all else, then you WILL succeed.

Best of luck and my thoughts & prayers out to you both!

I have no idea who you are, but you have my respect!