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Hey man- don't count on being able to beat him- #1. I would start spending alot more time at their house. No kidding you want blood- but you can attempt to communicate with him overtly or by implying you will act. The more time you spend there, the less likely he is to repeat his actions. If it continues, your sister needs to act, not you.
The reality is that a physical confrontation, or really a confrontation of any kind, by the OP of the brother in law will end badly. In fact, even the sister will probably defend the brother in law.
That's the sad reality of much of domestic violence. The only effective solution is to convince the sister to pursue her options against the clown.
All else will end badly in both family relations and legal consequences.
you know, if you witnessed him hit her, she doesn't have to press charges... you simply sign a complaint and off he goes.
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Originally Posted by JM Ver. 2.0
honestly all you can do is try to get your sister out of the situation. it has to be her decision. she married him, presumably decided to have a baby with him, decided to have a convicted felon be the daddy of her children, she is not making smart decisions
you have kids of your own, getting into this will only cause your own family grief. take care of your own that is all you worry about. give her supports and the number to a good lawyer and offer shelter if she needs it.
There is nothing you can that would help the situation except have a heart to heart with your sister and offer her a few phones numbers or a couch to sleep on. There is nothing that you can do until SHE decides to get help.
You know all this. We are here for you though. I'm sure we'd all love to have a few minutes in an alley with the scum.
The internet Holy Ghost works in weird and wonderful ways...
Gabe, I'll say this- after seeing the pain you were in last week, I wouldn't go risking further injury fighting this d-bag... Like others have said, only with a twist, talk to the sis. Blood is thicker than water. Does the rest of the family know about this? How close are your wife and sister? Maybe if your wife talks with her (both being pregnant this will carry a lot of weight in the situation) it will be better than [Big?] bro having a chat with her. Women tend to be more open to talking with other women, unless your sister hates your wife or visa versa. If captain D-bag leaves bruises on her that's just more evidence if you involve PD. Doubt they would be responding, but I have a good friend with Jeffco that's very good with DV that could appeal to your sister- and she's a female deputy, so again that woman thing... Good luck brother!
Just to clarify things up, my Brother in law was screwed over and that is why he got the felony conviction. He had sex with a 16 year old who lied to him and said she was 18 when he was 19 or 20 and when the girls parents divorced, this was made an issue and thus he was convicted and sent to jail, His PO is also in jail for lieing on documents etc which my Brother in Law was part of by the PO's lieing. So the bashing him over the felony conviction isnt right, nor making judgement on my sisters decision making being with a convicted felon etc. Him hitting her is enought to call him the ultimate scumbag.
My wife has been talking with my sister and she is worried I will act if she tells me. I know I wont act on it and I would let him provoke me into a defensive situation, but other then that I wont confront him. He is a Mason and I am asking Masons if they can help with this. Because as I understand, they do not put up with adultery and assualt on the Mason's spouse.
I have other ways to fuck his life up and will persue them since it will hit him and his ego more then if I took a baseball bat to his temple.
For those who say I cant take him and dont underestimate him, he has seen me in action and he has been afraid ever since. I dont underestimate him, I am concerned how badly he will fuck me up before I were to finish it, which I have no real desire to do, but I know I can beat him in a fight.
I genuinley appreciate all the advice and has kept me calm and cool and collected. As soon as the word is go on calling the cops, I am and going to let them handle it after that.
As for my sister, I can house her and her kids, there is 6 in my house already and he is actually leaving so she is stuck with the house payment etc, so I wish I made enough to help her monetarily.
PM me if your a Mason and Id like to persue this avenue to take care of business.
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Originally Posted by jim