shoplifting.

[esaabye]

Don't assume this is the first time, just first time caught. I would come down like at hammer at home, make the legal side the small side. Need to break the pattern at all costs before it gets out of hand.

This is said from the perspective of both being a parent now but also being that kid once upon a time.

Good Luck!

[gos]

[Edited: too soon]

[Robb]

Jim, She was busted by Pennys security and there was a Westminster police officer there having us fill out paperwork but all the wife and I have is a "Municipal summons and Complaint" that tells us she has a manditory appearance at court. That's all I know. I was sort of in shock and didn't think to ask all these questions when I went to mall security to pick her up. I feel dumb now but at the time I wasn't thinking. No ticket was issued.

[Ah Pook]

Sat in on an intervention of a 12yo recently (not mine). Busted for shoplifting (Mom turned him in). The judge went this route. Sitting in front of the people he stole from definitely had an effect on the kid. Sounds like he went through enough hassle and inconvenience to at least think twice before he does it again.

Good luck.

[rbeau30]

Jim, She was busted by Pennys security and there was a Westminster police officer there having us fill out paperwork but all the wife and I have is a "Municipal summons and Complaint" that tells us she has a manditory appearance at court. That's all I know. I was sort of in shock and didn't think to ask all these questions when I went to mall security to pick her up. I feel dumb now but at the time I wasn't thinking.

Happened with me, It is basically a ticket and notice to appear in court. That is where the city attorney will decide if they want to prosecute or whatever.

[BPTactical]

She will go to court, judge will offer a deferred sentence upon completion of classes and fines, charges dropped after 6 months of being a good girl.

[Robb]

Hey Bert, Classes & fines huh? Any ideas what that intails? Dollar amounts? I have no idea.
I'm gonna go beat somebody, I'm off for the night. Thanks everyone for the insights and ideas, I do appreciate it

[Gunner]

She will go to court, judge will offer a deferred sentence upon completion of classes and fines, charges dropped after 6 months of being a good girl.

This. Assuuming this has NEVER happened before. Its was not a large ammount of moneys worth.

[Great-Kazoo]

Hey Bert, Classes & fines huh? Any ideas what that intails? I have no idea.

Cash, cash, cash, then some more cash. You daughter will be in debt for 1-2 yrs depending what kind of employment she can get.
You want to get her attention, NO Cell Phone, No Internet other than school required items. It's amazing how quickly you get their attention when you disable their lifeline / social network.
The flip side is IF you come down too hard on her, it might make matters worse. been there, done that with our daughter. 2nd time her phone (no cell at the time) privileges were cut it was like a bolt of lightning hit her.

[Gunner]

They will issue an ammount of community service. Fines could vary.