What do you do if your kid is being bullied?

[Clint45]

What would you do in this situation? As a parent is it appropriate to go to the bully's parents? If LE can't do anything, and the school isn't doing anything, can you seek out legal remedy against the school, maybe even the PD/SO?

It is a complicated situation, and a lot depends on school administrators. Usually they'll cave if you have an attorney contact them directly, threatening lawsuits and publicity. There is always the chance that the bully's parents are even worse than their kid . . . that is learned behavior . . . and going over there could escalate unexpectedly, possibly resulting in criminal charges.

My best advice is to tell that kid that, from now on, every time that bully comes within 3 feet of him, he should just pre-emptively punch him right in the balls . . . no warning. He will probably get his ass kicked a few times, and might even be suspended, but eventually he'll be left alone. He needs to learn that he can't count on other people to protect and coddle him.

[newracer]

I tell both of my sons to never start a fight but to do what ever it takes to finish them.

[blacklabel]

I think that this situation is past letting the child resolve it on his own. I think that it is time for parental intervention. I would likely take it to 1) the principal 2) the officer's boss 3) the bully's parents. At each step I would inform them that I intended to take the story to the media and/or the court if it was not corrected.

As a fat little kid that went through hell in elementary and middle school, my mothers intervention only compounded the problems. Had she given me the skills to handle the situations on my own or to learn to separate what others thought or did to me from my own self worth, I would have been much better off. Of course there are limits to this. When theft or repeated physical abuse come into play then the parents should certainly get involved but be careful of what lesson you're teaching your child in the process.

[hghclsswhitetrsh]

Teach him some BJJ and tell him to defend himself.

This. It's our responsibility to protect our families. Doing so requires teaching them how to protect themselves when you're not around. There is much discipline in youth BJJ. It is quite refined and very effective. Krav Maga teaches biting, eye gouging, groin kicking etc. Fuck that. With good enough Jiu jitsu those "moves" are no longer a threat.

[blacklabel]

There is much discipline in youth BJJ.

I remember seeing this somewhere and thought it was awesome.

GRACIE BULLYPROOF

[drift_g35]

I dont have kids either but if I did and someone's kid was bullying mine, I would confront the parents, if it continued, id drag the kids dad out of his house by his ears and show him how bullying feels.

[JoeT]

A kick in the nuts is the great equalizer.

[hghclsswhitetrsh]

For the record, God willing, if we have children they will be introduced to Jiu Jitsu. If they like it they will continue until otherwise. But make no mistake if I find out my children are bullying children with those particular skills there will be hell to pay.

[kidicarus13]

Tell the kid's dad to leave his gun safe unlocked.



Joking... settle down all you Columbine survivors.

[davsel]

Teach him some BJJ and tell him to defend himself.

^^^^THIS

My father bought me boxing gloves, made a heavy bag out of his old duffle, and taught me some basic boxing skills. Worked for me. I intend to enroll my daughter in BJJ.