The wife is clueless.

[sellersm]

OK, please tell us why don't they ask if you are a regular drinker or if you do drugs? Why don't they ask if you have dangerous exotic pets such as a rattlesnake collection? Do they ask if you have a pool or a hot tub? More children are negatively affected by abusive households than firearms.

^This. Statistics should dictate what questions they ask **IF** they were really, truly concerned with the welfare & health of the baby & family. Because they don't, it can only mean they're being pressured by someone's agenda. Actions will always reveal motives...

[Circuits]

head down to Tijuana ... behind a taco stand

Mmmmm, tacos!

[Snowman78]

I have 3 kids and just took them all to there yearly check. My kids are 13, 10 and 3 they have all gone to the same MD for 10 years. She has never asked, but if she did she would ask the kids. I can't ask the kids to lie to a doctor so I hope the doctor never asks....

[spyder]

I have a newborn baby, I think it's a dumb question to ask parents. It's none of the doctors business if someone has guns in their house.

It's a government form, just another way of tracking. My mother in law just checks no to this, doesn't even ask. < I converted them well.

[newracer]

I am going to have to disagree with most gun owners on this. It is very much the doctors job and business to know about any potential risks to the baby or any other patient. If you want a doctor to "mind their own business" and not care about the child head down to Tijuana and get the baby delivered behind a taco stand for 15 bucks with a 20 dollar purchase.

Also I think the fact that people feel the need to lie to their doctor about something like gun ownership means either you are ashamed of your guns, or you don't trust your doctor. Either way it's time to make a change.

How is an inanimate object a potential risk to a 4 month old child?

[newracer]

Also the correct answer is "That is a boundary violation."

[PugnacAutMortem]

I was curious about this so I asked my wife if our pediatrician asked about guns. Much to my relief she doesn't (or hasn't asked yet at least...she's an old school lady who was actually my pediatrician when I was born, so she's been around the block). So I talked with my wife about if she ever does get that question to just say no. She was apprehensive about saying no, but she said she would do it because I asked her to. I guess she doesn't like the idea of not telling the truth on general prinicple, even if doing so means protecting our family. But at least she loves me and understands why I want her to say no.

And akumadiavolo, it is time to make a change. It's time to change people's notion that my business is anything but exactly that. I take my child to a doctor because that doctor has expertise in medical conditions. I don't take my child there to have them ask about how I'm raising my child. If my child doesn't have any medical conditions (i.e. a well child visit), then we will be in and out and on our way. If my child does have a medical condition, then I expect that expertise to be put to use to cure said condition and then we go on our way. It's none of their business what's in my house, what I do, say, think around my child.

[brutal]

So we had the 4 month wellness check and shots for our baby boy yesterday. One of the questions was do you have any guns in your home. I had talked to her about this and that the answer is in fact always a "No" because it isn't any of their damned business. She answers "Yes," but at least had the sense to say "Yes" to the follow-up question about them being secured etc.

I have never been so pissed off at this woman, ever. On the way home I start talking to her about why it was none of their business, and she goes off on this spiel about the social and physical wellness of a child and how firearms in the house impact social development...my blood boiled.

So I asked the question what about alcohol or drugs, why didn't they ask about that, or hell why not ask what cleaning agents we use too. She still has no clue why I am so angry about the issue, and largely just thinks I am being paranoid.

I am still so fucking mad about the whole thing today.

So any suggestions on how to help her understand? because at the moment I am distracted by how irritated I am at the situation

You have some un-brainwashing to do.

[generalmeow]

I am going to have to disagree with most gun owners on this. It is very much the doctors job and business to know about any potential risks to the baby or any other patient. If you want a doctor to "mind their own business" and not care about the child head down to Tijuana and get the baby delivered behind a taco stand for 15 bucks with a 20 dollar purchase.

Also I think the fact that people feel the need to lie to their doctor about something like gun ownership means either you are ashamed of your guns, or you don't trust your doctor. Either way it's time to make a change.

I started writing a nasty reply, and then I realized you're joking.

[hunterhawk]

Hey thanks for the heads up.. My son goes in for his 4 month check up tomorrow... My wife usually fills out the forms with me looking over her shoulder, well she can't make the appointment tomorrow so I will be answering the questions... Good stuff... And you're right wives don't understand on how much we do or think about to keep them and the rest of your family safe.. At least mine doesn't!