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Dating advice, or Redneck's dear diary thread
Tonight, gentlemen, i come to you for advice. I have recently started dating a new girl. The difference this time is that she has a 15 month old daughter. I like this chick, and could possibly see a future, but i'm a bit apprehensive. Have any of you guys dated someone with kid(s)? Any advice? Stick around and see where it goes, or run for the hills?
Well, what does her husband say?
"There are no finger prints under water."
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Feedback or what left of it after a Great Crash of 2012.
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"If you make something idiotproof, someone'll make a better idiot!"
Depends on what you are looking for.
You'll soon discover if she is a good mother - before having her raise your kids.
You'll have to deal with the father to some degree. You'll learn a lot about how she deals with him also.
Play it out - should not be a disqualifier, but will be additional baggage.
Good luck
ETA: Full Disclosure - I'm on my 4th marriage. 3rd one had kids. DO NOT take my advice!
Last edited by davsel; 05-14-2013 at 07:28.
Disclaimer: I didn't marry until I was 40 yo. My wife was 36 and married (common law) once before and had 3 kids before we met.
Ok, now that that is out of the way, here's my 2 cents FWIW:
Date her for a while and see what's up. You'll figure out if there's a lot of drama and baggage with her ex, etc. really quick and you'll have to assess the situation further then. Tons of bullshit = see ya. Relatively stable and down to earth = continue on. Of course you could be the "savior" type and save her from a nasty ex. Your choice.
Play with her daughter, feed her and change her. If this is a totally repulsive act to you....not a good sign.
If you end up loving this woman, you need to love the child as well - no exceptions. I was apprehensive about this myself. My fiance had 3 kids! It's fucking scary to start thinking, "Oh yeah, I'll just take in these kids...." when I never once had a kid of my own to begin with. But it is a MUST that you commit to the children as well as the woman if you do get serious.
This girl has a 15 month old little girl. If you end up sticking with this woman, you will basically be "daddy" to this little girl. This happened to me. I met my wife when her youngest son was just under 2 yo. He calls me dad now. Soooooooo cool to me. I love this boy just like he was my own. Eventually I will adopt him officially, but that's another story.
And I had a little girl with my wife in October. She is the best thing to ever happen to me.
That's it. Good luck man.
Follow your heart.
Don't ever try to be her Dad... let her become your daughter.
That is great advice. My oldest cousin is not blood to me, but my Uncle married her mom when she was 2. She is treated no differently than the rest of us, and views my uncle as her "real dad".Originally Posted by Byte Stryke
Take your time. A child that young can become attached real easy. With that said I don't know what her situation is with bio dad, but if your relationship develops you could end up being the best thing that happened to that child. I am raising my step kids on my own right now.
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This is good advice.
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