Wanted: Divorce Lawyer w/Exp in Military Matters

[rbeau30]

I bought my first wife off. She signed away all claim on my military retirement for the low, low sum of $20,000 in the divorce papers. I consider that money well spent.

I did something similar when she wanted "Spousal Maintenance". She signed that away for the low low sum of $2500.

Right after I was told by the County Mediator in the same building as the courthouse that, "Ohh you are in the military? The judge will never sign off on you getting more than 49% parenting time." Ohh but I as the father sure as hell can work full time while she is allowed to work part-time and have an accounting degree and work on a second degree.

Not all women do that.

I stand corrected, I edited my original post.

[Hound]

My ex has remarried twice - she still gets her check every month.

That my friend......just wrong.....just wrong.

[CroiDhubh]

I bought my first wife off. She signed away all claim on my military retirement for the low, low sum of $20,000 in the divorce papers. I consider that money well spent.

I would agree.

Not all women do that.

So much of the majority do, so it may as well be an accepted "all".

[TheGrey]

I would agree.




So much of the majority do, so it may as well be an accepted "all".

I'm afraid I disagree with you. I know several military families that have remained happily married for decades.

I also know of military marriages that barely survived the ink drying on their wedding certificate. But that should not discount the marriages that have remained, simply because there are divorces.

[rbeau30]

You are probably right TheGrey, I overestimated probably, however there are way too many spouses out there who prey on Military folks like predators, because they know that all they have to do is call a commander and get someone in trouble. Unfortunately not all commanders are as cool as mine who said, "If you cannot get arrested for it and it isn't breaking the law including military law, then I will not get involved."

[TheGrey]

We need commanders that will back up their soldiers- and we need stronger military spouses that will pull together. There are a lot of broken parts to this system, and the blame on the women should definitely be there for those that cheat the system, just as it should be for the men that do the same thing. "What goes TDY stays TDY," is a well-known adage that's been treated like a hall pass. It's a system that needs some serious work, there's no doubt. There's a lot of components to it.

Personally, I'm very sorry to hear what you're going through. I hope that you can locate an attorney that can help you.

[Hound]

I think there is a difference between the town skanks that plan their life around getting married and collecting a check and real marriage. I saw several when I was in and they are fun to be around but don't marry'em. I had one girl who, the week before she was going to marry a guy I was going through school with, offered to ditch him if I would marry her. I warned him, but no dice. He had two kids with her, ended up getting a divorce and then being found in the engine room 'out of it'. He got out on a "crazy" discharge, ruined his life. I have not heard from him since. I got lucky and hooked up with my college sweetheart, about to celebrate 20 yrs. My buddy got with his high school girl and is about to hit 19yrs. I think what I am saying is.. If you found them in the local military supported town your odds are lower it will work out. If they did not grow up around the military, they are better. Not that either is a sure bet... Just explaining the odds from what I saw while I was in.