We were married for 8 years, got divorced in 2009 soon after coming back from Afghanistan to an empty house (and I mean EMPTY), so she pretty much only would have gotten 20% of my retirement. Got 49 (me) / 51 (her) parental time so I ended up with close to what I wanted.

We have to exchange financial info every year, so she will see that I got a (Base Pay X 2) X number of years served = Severance package, however the VA will recoup whatever my Disability Rating is of that so I won't see a VA check until I have paid it off.

I can just see her going right to the courthouse to subpeona me as soon as she gets to see my taxes.

Things were going downhill getting medically discharged (not retired) after 15 years of service (in 5 days), until a new job landed right in my lap that I think I will enjoy a lot, so I am a whole lot less stressed right now.