Sparky your biggest change will be diet. You have to find something you can stick to and get it done. Start small, make one change a week. But your diet is going to be the biggest factor.. work out all you want.. but it won't have the same effect as a change in diet. Eating clean is a good goal. No prepackaged or prepared meals. Nothing out of a box, nothing out of a can... if you want sloppy Joe's.. you use a recipe. They have them. You control what goes in it. It's an easy start, and can be done cheaply. I won't lie though.. the fact that there are no subsidies on vegetables can make it seem pretty expensive. When you can buy a frozen pizza for $5 and feed the kids.. or spend $9 on chicken and veggies.. it seems a bit backwards.. and it is.

Couple of my favorite sites for recipes. I eat about 80/20 Paleo. I still like my brown rice and occasional bread.. I cook all the time. There are a ton of things you can do.

civilizedcavemancooking.com
paleomg.com (she's local)

If this is something you are serious about I can help you with easy quick recipes that are delicious. Send me a PM. My crossfit box is doing the 'Whole Life Challenge'. Take a look at it. I'll sponsor you in it if you'd like (it's not overly expensive for what it is). It's open to everyone. Basically it's just tracking how small changes to how you eat/activity level can change everything. There are several levels from beginner, to advanced (which is what I'll be doing since I already eat 80/20 paleo). You put your data in online and you can track it all. It's fun.. and the group I'm doing it with is hugely supportive.

I'm all for people changing their life.. I changed mine (granted I got squishy after breaking my back) but that's changing again too..

Like Belly said.. you get skinny in the kitchen, strong in the gym. It's the truth.