Dealing with a noisy neighbor

[Squeeze]

christ, a bunch of fucking whiners in here.

some of you are obviously not parents. You don't get it and you won't until you have kids. that is the absolute and down right fucking truth. you are the guys who mumble under your breath about the baby screaming on the airplane, maybe you say something to the guy next to you, but there isn't a damn thing that parent can do to make the kid happy.
kids make noises, lots of them. you can't silence them any more than you can silence a liberal spouting their mouth. push it too far and all of a sudden child services might be on your ass. there are fine lines as parents.

As to the OP, I would move. easiest way out. get to somewhere better where you don't have to worry about the kids being a little loud. At the younger ones age they have no concept of inside/outside voices and even if they do, they forget quickly, they get excited, they play, that's what kids do.
It sounds like the walls suck, the neighbor isn't a fan of kids and that is his reaction to their annoying noises, he makes his own annoying noises back.

There are major differences between other peoples kids' noises and your own. you tolerate your own blood a whole lot more than you do someone else. take that into consideration when you think they might be playing a little loud or if they really are being loud.

to the non-parents, your one and only opinion should be defending the guy on the other side of the wall. you don't get it.

[cofi]

As long as you keep it at a reasonable volume...

OCONOMOWOC, Wis. — A man said he broke into an apartment with a cavalry sword because he thought he heard a woman being raped, but the sound actually was from a pornographic movie his upstairs neighbor was watching.

“Now I feel stupid,” said James Van Iveren, who has been charged in the case. “This really is nothing, nothing but a mistake.”

According to a criminal complaint, the neighbor told police that Van Iveren pounded on the door and kicked it open without warning Feb. 12, damaging the frame and lock.


“Where is she?” Van Iveren demanded, thrusting the sword at the neighbor, the complaint said. “Where is she?”

The neighbor told police Van Iveren became increasingly aggressive as he repeated the question, insisting that he had heard a woman being raped. The complaint said that, with the sword pointed at him, the neighbor led Van Iveren throughout the apartment, opening closet doors to prove he was alone.

The neighbor later played for police the part of the DVD he believed Van Iveren heard downstairs.

Van Iveren, 39, of Oconomowoc, was charged with criminal trespass, criminal damage and disorderly conduct, all while using a dangerous weapon, and is due in court March 5. Together, the misdemeanor counts carry a maximum sentence of 33 months in jail.

Van Iveren said Tuesday that he heard a woman “screaming for help,” grabbed the sword, bounded up the stairs, kicked in the apartment door and confronted the man who lived there.

“I intended to hold it behind my back and knock. But I froze and instead, what happened happened,” he told the Milwaukee Journal Sentinel.

Contesting his neighbor’s account, Van Iveren said he didn’t look anywhere in the apartment except the front room, and that he never threatened the neighbor with the sword.

“I had the sword extended. But that was all,” he said.

Van Iveren, who lives with his mother in the downstairs apartment, said he did not call police when he heard the noises because he does not have a telephone. He said he barely knew the upstairs tenant.

Police seized Van Iveren’s sword, which he said was a family heirloom

[jhirsh5280]

Love how this has evolved into porn.

There are some very valid points from all angles here. Those who have kids definitely understand where Im coming from and those without kids dont. I can understand that I have to look at it from his perspective and from what Ive heard from board members who have sat down with him and talked, he thinks I let my kids run around the house and kick the baseboards just to annoy him. Without ever being in my house you'll have to take my word but its impossible to even touch the baseboards against his our ajoining walls and 2) what parent would honestly just let their kids kick the walls? Not me. Maybe I didnt convey it properly but I think the basis for his noise is out of spite and retaliation. Ive tried to extend the olive branch, he hasnt. Ive taken note of some very good ideas contained in this thread, including going back to watching porn. I had no idea it would cause such a discussion, but Im glad I got opinions from both the understanding and the assholes (said in the most respectful way possible).

...back to your regularly scheduled rants and raves

[jslo]

http://www.youtube.com/watch?feature...&v=j8xcBmj1sn8

[BlasterBob]

Wow, we have been just tossing the idea of a town house or condo when we finally move but these posts are a grim reminder of what CAN happen when folks have a common wall, floor or ceiling. The older I get, the much less tolerant I am of things that bug me like abrasive noises.
We raised three great kids and they were NEVER loud and rambunctious and NEVER annoyed others. That was the "old school way" of dealing with our youngsters. When I was a kid ( LONG) time ago, we were frequently reminded of the old saying, "kids should be seen and not heard". Another old saying was ,"Respect your elders". Hey, it worked for us! ..
Now, I just hope I get some respect from most of my "juniors" here.

[Irving]

Ariel Castro never would have had this problem....

[Squeeze]

Wow, we have been just tossing the idea of a town house or condo when we finally move but these posts are a grim reminder of what CAN happen when folks have a common wall, floor or ceiling. The older I get, the much less tolerant I am of things that bug me like abrasive noises.
We raised three great kids and they were NEVER loud and rambunctious and NEVER annoyed others. That was the "old school way" of dealing with our youngsters. When I was a kid ( LONG) time ago, we were frequently reminded of the old saying, "kids should be seen and not heard". Another old saying was ,"Respect your elders". Hey, it worked for us! ..
Now, I just hope I get some respect from most of my "juniors" here.

I remember my mom, dad, grandpa, grandma, etc. telling us kids that saying more than once. It worked too. We got the message by the "look" we got. It really is sad seeing the way a lot of parents are now. Many of them seem to enjoy practicing the reproduction process, but don't care for the end result after 9 months. Anymore it's just babies having babies. After going through the drama, anger and disgust this thread pulled out of me...I figure I'm better off to say, "F - it" and just grab a bowl of popcorn and watch everything fall to shit around me. Haven't been this PO'd in a long damn time. Drains the soul I tell ya.

[BlasterBob]

I remember my mom, dad, grandpa, grandma, etc. telling us kids that saying more than once. It worked too. We got the message by the "look" we got..

We raised three kids and was damn rare that we ever had to lay a hand on them (paddle their butts). They knew what was expected of them and as Squeeze indicated, the "look" was enough to let them know that they should "cool it" NOW. These kids of ours ( now ages 49, 46 and 41) NEVER gave us any grief, no trouble with the law, not drinkers, smokers or dopers and are totally responsible adults. Guess we did something right in raising them the old fashion way. I am NOT bragging, just telling like really it is/was.

[BigDee]

All of you kid haters should come spend an afternoon at my place. I've got a 4 year old boy, a 9 month old infant and a 2 year old Rotty. They can make a LOT of noise when they get going. I don't do anything to stop the noise because they are just being themselves and enjoying themselves in the process.

[Madeinhb]

He can't complain about the noise of kids being kids. If he doesn't want to deal with kids, he should move to a condo or such where kids aren't allowed.