Sorry, haven't checked into this thread in a while...
Yes, if you're pushing the shoulder too far and it's a light load, the primer can pop out. Several things at play... primer goes off and jumps out of the pocket. Normally the powder charge then expands the case and the primer re-seats flush with the base (we're talking fractions of a second here). With a light load and a headspace problem, there's too much room between the brass (that doesn't expand enough due to the light load) and the bolt face... potentially enough for the primer to come totally out. That explains the 38.0 grain load. I discovered this early on with start loads ridiculously low in Hornady #7.
Headspace problem plus powerful load usually means case head separation (almost always a headspace problem).
Forget what came with your die set. Normally, you can turn the sizing die down until it touches the shell plate and you're good to go. Most directions say to go 1/8 to 1/4 beyond that so it cams over. I have found this to be detrimental with autoloaders (bolt guns I just neck size, so it's never an issue). A case gauge is very much worth the money.
My only other advice is don't load to 42.8 grains. Find a different powder / bullet / primer / brass combination if it's not doing what you want.