Quote Originally Posted by Guylee View Post
Go to your employer and tell them you've had another offer. Maybe they'll offer you some incentive to stay.
I'd be right up front with your current employer and tell them you're going to give him a crazy number like triple your current salary and better benefits just because he's demanding an answer but that you like where you are. If the other company gives you a counter then let the your current employer know because the other company's counter gives both you and your current employer a better feel for your worth in the market.

If the other company agrees to your crazy number then ask them for 1) some details about their company so you can assess their ability to pay that long-term and 2) a moment to think about the ramifications of leaving. Be upfront and tell them you never really expected them to agree to that number so you really need to discuss with the family.