Advice from all the fathers out there!

[hurley842002]

Sounds good guys
I'll be doing the same Hurley ! Like Johnnys idea with the sugar, exhausted nap idea.
Do week days/weekends work best for every one?
Maybe a 1000-1300 time ?
What is good for everyone's schedule

I'm very flexible for the time being.

[lex137]

Weekends are best for me.

[killianak9]

Weekends are best for me.

I'm very flexible for the time being.

How's Saturday 1/17 ?
Monkey Business @ Orchard mall in Westminster
@10:30?
I usually pack a lunch or snack for my daughter and hang around till she's tired (1200-1300)

[Snowman78]

I have the exact opposite problem. My kids want to be with me 24-7. My wife is working on a 2nd degree and has to be on the computer a lot. So the kids want to hang with me EVERY SECOND

[sniper7]

Well a little advice from me:

google will solve almost anything besides getting the actual medicine.my latest one:

my son had an odor when I left for my trip on Friday. Wife said giving him a bath took care of it, then that evening it was back. I thought it was bad breath. Got home late last night and my son came in and wanted to sleep with us around 3am. I woke up and almost couldn't stand the smell when he wanted to lay next to me.

google quickly came up with that he he possibly had a near or nasal infection or possible ops foreign object in there. Sure enough, he had jammed a wrapper up his nose. Tweezers got it out, smell was gone, little saline solution and a hot bath and all is well. Saved about $175 doctor visit....

so before you freak out and head for the doc, quick a quick search because there are hundreds of millions of kids out there who do the same crap and the online posts will save you lots of headaches and money.

[MarkCO]

Granted I have not read the thread responses, but here is mine.

Maybe too late, but I read "So you are going to be a Dad" before the first one came. It was excellent and helped me a good deal. Might still be good read for the OP and I certainly recommend it if you have gotten your wife pregnant...in her mind, it IS your fault.

For the first two years (or so) my boys loved mommy and I was a footnote. That is hard when you have a wife as adoring as I had and all of a sudden the kid gets all the affection and energy. My advice is to do the things NOT kid related that will free her up. Sure changing diapers and feeding and such is part and parcel, but if the kid prefers mom, let mom do it and you do something else FOR your wife, like the laundry, the shopping, etc. In hindsight, I should have done more of this. You help and support your wife as much as possible, she will see it, believe in that servant's heart and you will both be better for it, and the kids in the long run.

Once my boys turned about 2, it was all about Dad. That was cool for me and hard for my wife. We are still in that mode, but the oldest one turned 13, so teenagery is now here. Never let the kid divide and conquer you and your wife. You are a team, a one, vs. the kid(s). If you or your wife make a poor choice regarding the kids (we are not talking about beatings and putting your kid in harms way here) it is better to let it go, regroup, get on the same page and move on rather than have a huge fight. Now I am one that believes a kid NEEDS to see conflict resolution work between their parents, so I am not saying take it to the garage for every conflict, but strike a balance. My wife hates that, but my view is that we should do what creates the most independent, strong, intelligent contributory citizens that we can. I know most of America does not subscribe to that path, but it is our path and my wife, once she gets through the emotion, does agree with that path.

Most Fridays, I take the wife to breakfast, then we go run errands, maybe shopping (I dislike shopping BTW) and I make dinner Friday. A day off for her if you can. We used to do Sunday, but with homework, sports, functions, etc, Friday was a better day for her. If you can do something where you drop the kiddo off at a grandparents for a half day and spend your focus on her, whatever she thinks that is (probably illogical to you), it will go a long way. I am not saying you have to paint her toes, but I am sure you can find something she enjoys that you can endure.

Most women enjoy the kiddo duties and if you show her appreciation and adoration for the great job she is doing, that sets up a foundation for the rest of your married life and her appreciation of you will be reciprocal.

I have a few friends who have wive's they describe as "frigid". To some degree, the man who chases her, gets her, impregnates her and then sulks off to the basement to watch sports is a popular American theme. Those first few years of kids, growing apart and ignoring the spouse, either way, is one of the big things that leads to destructive behavior.

[lex137]

How's Saturday 1/17 ?
Monkey Business @ Orchard mall in Westminster
@10:30?
I usually pack a lunch or snack for my daughter and hang around till she's tired (1200-1300)

i would like to meet you guys but it's a far drive for me might need to find something closer to Denver.

[GilpinGuy]

I'd love to chime in, but this a learning experience for me too. Got a 2yo hellion on my hands absolutely freaking out at this moment because it's "night night time". Good thread.