Advice from all the fathers out there!

[Irving]

When I lived with my ex and helped her raise her son I always focused on the kitchen. I like to cook and honestly kept it cleaner than she would have. Whatever you do be consistent. When she got used to something being taken care of by me and then I skipped it she would freak out cause it threw her all off then.

We're the same way. When I don't do what I usually do, it's a big deal for her. Same as when she doesn't do what she does. Even without doing it on purpose, you become a team and start to rely on each other.

First off congrats
The biggest thing with our family was me giving wifey a break. That could be as little as an hour or ever 4. Take your daughter after feeding time and play, read, whatever!
Try to learn the routine of the day when you are home and dedicate that time for you and baby.
Helpful for the wife is ALONE time,
Plan for her to have time to herself to do what ever, get her nails done, go food shopping, meet her friends for happy hour, sleep, ect...
My wife was part of a mommy group that met once a month or so to ( insert whatever they do). Happy wife is happy life.. Simple shit like run the dish washer and vacuuming, tidy up after the kiddo.
That's what's worked for us! We have two girls 2& 9mo. My hot rod and gun addition is non issue, as it shouldn't be.

I would always get into trouble for not being able to engage the kiddo for long enough for wife to do her thing. Not as big of a deal now that she's older, but I remember wife trying to work out in the other room and coming to yell at me because something I did made the baby cry and she would go run to mom. Or more likely, I'd get caught up on here and not engage and baby would end up where ever mom was. Again, not as difficult to manage now, but something to keep in mind. We all fall into a routine and it can be difficult to break out of it, but family is worth it.

[killianak9]

We're the same way. When I don't do what I usually do, it's a big deal for her. Same as when she doesn't do what she does. Even without doing it on purpose, you become a team and start to rely on each other.



I would always get into trouble for not being able to engage the kiddo for long enough for wife to do her thing. Not as big of a deal now that she's older, but I remember wife trying to work out in the other room and coming to yell at me because something I did made the baby cry and she would go run to mom. Or more likely, I'd get caught up on here and not engage and baby would end up where ever mom was. Again, not as difficult to manage now, but something to keep in mind. We all fall into a routine and it can be difficult to break out of it, but family is worth it.

100% agree man. That was me with our first kid. Our two year old could careless ( that just started in the last two months ) but your right the baby till that age, she is a shadow. All they want to do is learn and be with Ya.
My wife travels for works and I have a home business, so I have been really lucky to raise our kids and be with them ALOT. We are very lucky/blessed to be able to not have either kid in day care and home with us this long!