Quote Originally Posted by TheGrey View Post
Have you had a heart-to-heart with her? Is she an alcoholic, or does she have a glass of wine with dinner? (That's a prying question, and you don't have to answer it. I think it's important to consider.)

This certainly is a tough one. I'm sure there are guys that are everyday drinkers that have these issues as well. Not a good combination, no matter who it is.
Did something happen to set this off in her head? Does she have concerns. or is she fixating on having a gun? Does she have anything as far as a security system (I'm talking cameras, or a panic button in case she falls) and how often do you check on her?

Without knowing the answers, I'd say that you need to lay down some rules. If she wants a gun, that's fine., providing:

If she gets a gun, she needs a gun safe that same day.
She trains weekly, with you.
But the days your child is at her house are the days that her gun goes with YOU. Booze, a child and a gun in the same house do not mix.
If she wants you to go with her to pick out a gun, that day she does not drink. Not a drop.

My parents are in this age group. There comes a time that we, the children, begin watching out for them. It's okay. You can do this. Just talk with her and let her know your concerns, and see what her concerns are.
great response. thank you for taking the time to write all that...

shes an alcoholic. period. she doesnt admit to it. and as far as Im concerned, shes old, shes allowed, and it'll kill her someday. Ive seen her crack beers at 10am. she could put down a case by herself easy. (and thanks for going easy on her guys/gals... )

I am over there probably every 3 days or so. and usually one full day on the weekends. she is fixated on a gun specifically. she was saying the other day "how stupid it is to be an NRA member and not even have a gun!". my whole family is acutely aware of protection and whatnot, news etc. there wasn't some specific concern like a break in or something that has pushed this. no security system.