1. It's her right to defend herself if she wants.
2. You don't have to enable her in exerting her right nor do you have to endanger your loved ones if you think she may pose a danger to them.
3. You can slow roll anything she asks you to do to help her with #1.
4. If she wants to go to the range with you, take her. Start her with a S&W Airlite .357 snubnose and see how long her desire to get a gun again lasts.