Send it or not?

[davsel]

Sounds like you advised her not to send it.
It is now up to her.

Try to stay out of it - you will not "win" in a battle between sisters/inlaws.
However, you must also try to support your wife.

Ain't marriage grand!
Good Luck.

[Firehaus]

The source of all conflict is unmet expectations. Usually due to miscommunication and unrealistic expectations of each other from the two parties involved.


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[Irving]

The source of all conflict is unmet expectations. Usually due to miscommunication and unrealistic expectations of each other from the two parties involved.


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What a long way to just say "women."

[Firehaus]

What a long way to just say "women."

Shhhh...I'm practicing my liberal speak. It's not as easy as it looks.


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[TheGrey]

Here's a woman's viewpoint:

You're in a tough position. As a wife, I have certain (and often implied) expectations of my husband: I expect him to back me on specific deals where he is not privy to complete information in family matters, but I also expect him to be the voice of reason when emotions and knee-jerk reactions have me frothing at the mouth. In return, he can expect the same of me.

You need to tell your wife something like this: "Sweetheart, I've got your back. I get there's bad blood between you two and that things weren't resolved at the funeral. Instead of sending that letter, let it sit for a week. Then let's burn it, and we'll go to the range and you can shoot until you feel better. Re-opening everything and letting her respond and trying to justify herself and getting family members to take sides isn't going to do anything good." Or something like that.

Whatever you do, don't put yourself in the middle of it or be the go-between or anything else. This is the precipice of a war that will make The Sopranos seem like 'I Dream of Jeannie."

[Kraven251]

I will say I don't think any good will come from sending it, but if she intends to not speak to her again and really doesn't want her sister in her life in anyway, "fire in the hole."

Her relationship with her sister is not your problem, and trying to be a peacekeeper will do you no good. Let the chips fall where they may, and no matter how wrong you think your wife might be, she is your wife and your sister-in-law can fuck off. Support your wife, and as long as she hasn't threatened her sister, it is what it is.

[vossman]

Well, I don't know if she sent it. We have not talked about so I assume she hasn't. Thanks for all the discussion.

[Great-Kazoo]

Well, I don't know if she sent it. We have not talked about so I assume she hasn't. Thanks for all the discussion.

If your phone starts blowing up @ 1 in the a.m consider it as sent. Sometimes ones spouse cannot talk sense / patience in to their partner.
UMM What you say honey?