Home Invasion in my Neighborhood

[Joe_K]

MOLON LABE... what happened to your video/picture on page 1?

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Velocitas, Opprimere,
Violentia Operandi

[Irving]

Glad your family is safe, and hope the perp is found and the hammer is laid upon him. The wife and I just got into an argument minutes ago, because she recklessly whips the front door open at any noise or knock, without looking in the peep hole. If she was in your wife's shoes, she may have been starring down the barrel of a gun. Scares the hell out of me.

Late response, but I have a story for you. Years ago, we lived in a first floor apartment. Back then, the cat was an inside/outside cat and he'd spend all day outside, then scratch at the door when he wanted in. It was a regular practice that when we heard his scratch, we'd just open the door to let him in without looking. I didn't like this and one day got a fantastic idea to make my point. After returning from a run, instead of knocking, I scratched at the door just like my cat did. I even scratched low on the door like he did. It took a few times before my wife heard, but as soon as the door opened, I shot my hand in the gap and grabbed her right in the mouth. I was able to pin her head against the wall, with my hand over her mouth, all in one motion before she even knew what was happening. It scared the Be-JESUS out of her, but she got my point without a long, drawn out discussion or argument. Thinking back, I'm not even sure if I had brought up my concerns before I played that little stunt. Either way, she changed her habits immediately and the exercise was so effective that she wasn't even mad.

[Rumline]

Hmmm... I'm not sure that grabbing one's wife by the face and intentionally scaring her to "make a point" is a great solution to the stated problem. Demonstration is a legitimate strategy for persuasion, and I'm glad it worked out for you, I'm just saying that specific method may not enjoy broad success.

[DireWolf]

Hmmm... I'm not sure that grabbing one's wife by the face and intentionally scaring her to "make a point" is a great solution to the stated problem. Demonstration is a legitimate strategy for persuasion, and I'm glad it worked out for you, I'm just saying that specific method may not enjoy broad success.

yeah, I'm thinking that might lead to a demonstration (for educational purposes only), of the effect getting kicked in the nuts might have

[Irving]

I do realize that the way I describe the event makes me sound like a horrible monster. I assure you no one was harmed or anything like that. My wife is a fighter, so I had enough time get my hand on her mouth and then about one second to let go before she broke my arm with the door.

[CS1983]

I don't think you did anything wrong. Sometimes a demonstration of things is better than trying to communicate the need for security by simple words.

[Singlestack]

...all depends on the wifester. If I tried that kind of blind demonstration with my wife, I would be cut off - probably in every sense of the word! She doesn't generally like surprises, even some good ones.

[Irving]

It's important to recognize the difference between violence, and simulated violence. Years later, we even paid someone to come inflict several sessions of simulated violence against not only us, but the kids as well, in the form of a women's self-defence course.

[Rumline]

I do realize that the way I describe the event makes me sound like a horrible monster. I assure you no one was harmed or anything like that. My wife is a fighter, so I had enough time get my hand on her mouth and then about one second to let go before she broke my arm with the door.

Sorry I wasn't trying to criticize you, just making a point similar to that of Singlestack.

[Jonsey]

That's kind of funny Irving, and yes, I think surprising your wife could prove dangerous. I'm sure she realized it was you pretty quick? I really like your idea of thinking up possible attack situations and working them out with someone you trust. When I do this stuff with my husband sometimes I am surprised how much stronger he is than me or how fast I would have to draw...but also surprised when I figure out how to flip him onto the ground.