You and I actually have a lot of the same concerns. I admit I don't have all the answers either other than to stand firm, be sincere, and explain that my position is not out of ignorance.
We do have a leadership vacuum and it needs to be filled with real people. Dana Loesch is a great example. And I don't have enough time in my day to show you what Libs have said about her, how they have threatened her family, and wished her dead for it. But we don't encourage good leadership by abandoning a fight. Misguided can be fixed, apathy not so much.
A lot of your frustration seems to be leveled at the orgs, and I share it. That's why I let my NRA membership lapse for the first time in ? years. Sure don't see them much these last few weeks either! The thing that brings me comfort is that the NRA was always gun owners/supporters, or at least the ones willing to part with the fees. Those people and their values still exist even if not being effectively represented.
I really don't see a way to address the issue that doesn't involve discussing door kicking because that is very much what is being demanded. I can't be upset that someone calls Libs out on that and challenges them to admit they want violence on gun owners (today, others tomorrow). I also can't be upset at folks who are asking good questions about morality and aggression and discussing the issue. For example, a school shooting is a horrible
exception (crime) committed by an individual. But making someone a felon and stacking up on his door is
intentional, targeted, state violence. In order for Libs to really win on guns they have to be the tyrants we fear which legitimizes resistance. Tough subject and I'm not surprised people are put off by it, get upset, and make incendiary comments. I'm probably guilty of this at times as well but really try to be disciplined when talking to the other side.
The dominance of feelings exists because the people who feel have been sheltered from reality
by design. It is part of our fight. Stepping back doesn't help them nor does it help us. How many of us have observed we are fighting for the rights of young people
against young people? I get the social media thing. It's hard and full of double-standards. It's really shitty to spend time posting about the history of 2A only to be called an ammosexual or child murderer let alone have people threaten to "dox" you. But it's part of the marketplace of ideas in 2018. How unfair would it be to sit back, say nothing, watch the world go to shit, and say "I told you?"
There's also a bit of filtering and selection going on in the socials. It's really not representative of either side. Think about the person who has all day to post on the internet. Now think about the people in life you know who kick ass. Not the same person. I've had some time off the last few work days so I've been able to keep up with things more than usual. I need to get back to work!
Don't forget that our way of life does indeed exist in the hearts and minds of ~50% of the people in this country (judging by popular vote splits). The media and socials have intentionally tipped the scales to make us
feel otherwise. When you hear 90% negative reporting on Trump for 2017 that means something and isn't organic. FB had a whole team to do the same in 2016. Twitter was caught "shadow banning." They want us to feel small, stupid, and insignificant and it works! It wouldn't be propaganda if it didn't. Then we ask why we're not organized! The level of negative psychology we're fighting here is massive. There's nothing sexy about being a Conservative or wanting small government. Very hard to promote a system where people pay their own bills and work.
UNLESS we explain the merits and the hams of collectivism.
I've said before the country needs an amicable divorce (flame suit on but that's really the best solution for all involved IMHO).
This doesn't mean America is dead, and the other side knows this too which is why they won't stop at guns. China, Cuba, Russia, etc... They didn't just have to win the revolution but had to eliminate anyone who would advocate for better, bygone times.