To date, or not to date? A red flag question

[FoxtArt]

Back to the OP's question: I'd be more concerned with breaking up with a nut job with red flag laws. A woman scorned and all that.

I think that's what he implies as well. The strategy shift makes it safer though: Break up much earlier when its easier (and you're not completely blind), and then essentially "Ghost" any future contacts. Don't answer the phone, don't answer the door, if they go out of the way to stalk you you're busy or not there (e.g. Ginsue's example is a good one to follow).

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[Zundfolge]

Boy I'm glad I'm a boring old married guy ... I'd hate to date in this modern environment. Not just because of Red Flag laws (that's the latest stupidity) but with third wave feminism, #metoo, cancel culture, STI/STDs and all that SJW BS, I really feel sorry for you young single guys.


Based on my experience dating back in the 80s-90s, I dated a few nutters ... and one thing I learned is that if they're quick into bed and they're good at it when they get there they're likely nuts.

So you're best off dating good girls and waiting until marriage for the sex. Good luck finding good girls these days


Thing that makes it most difficult finding quality women is in making sure you've made yourself a man that deserves a quality woman. If you spend your weekends picking up and shagging skanks at bars (as much fun as that can be), don't be surprised when the good girls don't want to have anything to do with you.


At any rate, don't date women you have serious disagreements on important value based issues (this likely will include guns).

[FoxtArt]

I agree on the value based issues, people shouldn't believe though that hobbies should agree. Generally I think a woman who is "not into guns" (but is not opposed to them) is going to more likely, turn out better than the woman that "REALLY LIKES GUNS". I'm talking on average, not about any individuals.

The reason why is largely the same as the hot/crazy matrix: Attention.

I'll give you an example. I once saw a "6.5" go into a gun store and she asked to buy a box of 50 BMG rounds. She said she was going shooting with her boyfriend. Mind you, that at the time was probably $60.

I kid you not, 5 guys were clamoring over each other desperate to pay for her ammunition. That undoubtedly, her boyfriend, e.g. swinging dick was going to be shooting, but that's not the point.

Most women get large amounts of attention they don't like or appreciate. However, once a woman starts "appreciating" that attention and gets an unusual amount of it - or modifies activities to get more attention - the HCM pegs off the chart - hot = attention which = crazy, and it's possible to obtain that "hot" attention without being a "10".

Once again, not talking individuals, plenty of exceptions, blah blah blah. Fawning and attention generally goes to people's heads and if they appreciate it, it makes them crazy.

[Irving]

This is probably the last place I'd ask for dating advice.

[waffles]

Yeah no kidding. Dont make guns/the fear of losing them the deciding factor in your romantic life. If someone is going to unjustifiably red flag you you're going to have plenty of signs first that she ain't the one

[glock74]

Red flags for me are women that don’t have a good relationship with there dad. Not every woman is like this, but I have met a lot that have issues. Women that can’t get over an ex you should pass on.

[wctriumph]

Been with the same woman for 40 years so ... no advice here ...

[MrAK]

I agree on the value based issues, people shouldn't believe though that hobbies should agree. Generally I think a woman who is "not into guns" (but is not opposed to them) is going to more likely, turn out better than the woman that "REALLY LIKES GUNS". I'm talking on average, not about any individuals.

The reason why is largely the same as the hot/crazy matrix: Attention.

I'll give you an example. I once saw a "6.5" go into a gun store and she asked to buy a box of 50 BMG rounds. She said she was going shooting with her boyfriend. Mind you, that at the time was probably $60.

I kid you not, 5 guys were clamoring over each other desperate to pay for her ammunition. That undoubtedly, her boyfriend, e.g. swinging dick was going to be shooting, but that's not the point.

Most women get large amounts of attention they don't like or appreciate. However, once a woman starts "appreciating" that attention and gets an unusual amount of it - or modifies activities to get more attention - the HCM pegs off the chart - hot = attention which = crazy, and it's possible to obtain that "hot" attention without being a "10".

Once again, not talking individuals, plenty of exceptions, blah blah blah. Fawning and attention generally goes to people's heads and if they appreciate it, it makes them crazy.

This attention seeking behavior should have initially tipped me off, but a well established beautiful woman / former pro athlete chasing after me was too much to turn down after my dog died. Crazy / hot matrix should have been a dead giveaway as well.

[ray1970]

Boy I'm glad I'm a boring old married guy ... I'd hate to date in this modern environment. Not just because of Red Flag laws (that's the latest stupidity) but with third wave feminism, #metoo, cancel culture, STI/STDs and all that SJW BS, I really feel sorry for you young single guys.

It can?t be all that bad these days. I hear oral and other things aren?t really even considered sex these days. You can meet a nice girl that won?t let you go to home plate but is perfectly fine with letting you get to first, second, or even third base.

[FoxtArt]

It can?t be all that bad these days. I hear oral and other things aren?t really even considered sex these days. You can meet a nice girl that won?t let you go to home plate but is perfectly fine with letting you get to first, second, or even third base.

And at that point, just as you're swinging around for the home run, he finally tells you "So you know, I identify as..."