To date, or not to date? A red flag question

[MrAK]

And at that point, just as you're swinging around for the home run, he finally tells you "So you know, I identify as..."

And the whole night, I had been hoping “she” was just Italian

[Duman]

Well..... asking this bunch for dating and relationship advice is like asking a Salmon how to ride a bicycle.....

[MrAK]

I’m really not lookin for “advice”, so much as personal opinions and perspectives on how Red Flag Bills May have impacted members dating choices and decisions had those bills already been in effect.

That, and I figured I’d get a few humorous stories about people dating women from Florida, Louisiana, or god forbid you can hold on to the crazy ride of a French Canadian.

[FoxtArt]

I don't know why you guys are ripping the groups collective experience. Between everybody I think at least three or four guys went on a date once or twice in the 80's before getting hitched a month later. And that hair was amazing dammit! The rest are probably cave dwelling hermits that grunt from the shadows.

Here's a irrelevant philosophical question:

Who would generally have the better advice, e.g. who would you be more inclined to listen to:
1. People who swung a home run on the first hit (Married to first love for 50 years)
2. People who have swung out a lot (Divorced say, three times and dated a lot, maybe married to current spouse 5 years).

[FoxtArt]

My answer:




























Type 1) for opinions regarding success like "when do you know they were right?" or "how do you make it through periods of argument"
Type 2) for opinions regarding failure like "how to I get them to leave me alone?" or "how do you work out child splits with their best interest when your ex is nuts".

Neither apply to me, ftr. Just saying I think it's silly when people think type 1) has all the answers when in truth, it's partially a crap shoot of luck, and some people get somewhat lucky and find someone that stays compatible for life.

Others find a HCM-10 and get stabbed in their sleep, but survive.
(Type 1) doesn't have an iota of experience with that shit.

You kind of need to grasp both the success stories and failures when you're young. Realistically, wisdom isn't learned, its just experience, so most everyone's pretty f'ed if they start with the "wrong" person.

[Duman]

I'm not ripping the group's experience. There have been some good points made.

...and French Canadian women...some of the most beautiful women I've ever seen were in Montreal........

[Doc45]

I won’t go in to much detail on an open forum but let me say I’ve had false accusations made about me at my place of employment that had to come from a crazy ex. Thankfully my employer listened to and believed me. I’ve also had an email account signed up with every dim presidential candidate with a quite unflattering first name, yeah she knew that email address. Without some serious cyber investigation I can’t prove it’s her but that’s the suspicion. Hopefully she realizes what her consequences would be for filing a false red flag report. She’s crazy but smart.

[iego]

Can you believe you are asking for advice on whether or not it is safe to date?

This is what an all too powerful state is like. Fear, around every corner.

-John

[MrAK]

What I can’t believe, is the belief that I’m asking for advice. I’ve got my own take on things, appreciate hearing about other people’s experiences, and was asking if anyone else would have ended a relationship sooner if Red Flag laws had been around. I figured there’d be some funny stories that would have come from this thread as well.

[iego]

I have no idea about what you are asking, since red flag laws are new, and yet you are asking for other people's experience (only?!)

Suffice it to say that I think Red Flag Laws are bad for dating.

-John