Observations on Forum Etiquette and Life in General

[Ranger353]

You know, I think you are spot on. And I would add that this goes for just about any group or forum, or blog. There are small cliques of folks that feed off of negativity for no reason than "they can", and they do, and they get away with it and thus fill empowered to continue this behavior.

I have my professional credentials on the footer of this post not because I am trying to make an impression or assert myself over someone else, but instead to add some measure of credibility to my comments. I only post comments/opinions to matter that I have something to add to, but I try very hard not to step on toes too.

Thanks for the candid comments, I think we all have to get a check on our humility every once and a while and I hope this experience has not soured you on the group. There really are some great helpful people here, but there is also that 10% that are less than.

Take care.

[thane]

And how do you treat the guy that shows up to his security job everyday telling old war stories about shooting kids in Iraq, when you can tell that the closest this dumb piece of shit has ever been to the military was hanging up on a recruiter? I run into guys like that on occasion and they are the kind of mall ninja that don't deserve anything but to be put into their place. Thane I think that there is an important difference between a mall ninja and a fudd, and your post refers to fudds more than ninjas.

Also, this same guy was the kind of guy who would ride people's asses in the fast lane in the security Jeep, then light them up with the all yellow light bar like he was a cop. This guy was a total failure at life. Glad I never had to work with him.

I understand, but there is something to be said for sympathy, much of which is somewhat lost on the current generation.

If a person is acting like that, it's symptomatic of deeper issues that person has in their life...

No-one has ever gotten better by being "put in their place".

Kindness is the quickest way to provoke change.

Granted, some people just don't get it, or don't want it.

In that case, I would advise ignoring them.

Unless you're fighting a war, I'd always advise against the "hand of justice" mentality.

That's just me though, but I'll tell you that philosophy has provided me with a long, incredibly blessed life.

[thane]

You know, I think you are spot on. And I would add that this goes for just about any group or forum, or blog. There are small cliques of folks that feed off of negativity for no reason than "they can", and they do, and they get away with it and thus fill empowered to continue this behavior.

I have my professional credentials on the footer of this post not because I am trying to make an impression or assert myself over someone else, but instead to add some measure of credibility to my comments. I only post comments/opinions to matter that I have something to add to, but I try very hard not to step on toes too.

Thanks for the candid comments, I think we all have to get a check on our humility every once and a while and I hope this experience has not soured you on the group. There really are some great helpful people here, but there is also that 10% that are less than.

Take care.

Well said, it's nice to see some level-headed people coming out of the woodwork.

And don't worry, I'm not soured, just pointing out some things I've seen.

A day lived, a day learned.

[Irving]

Well, that is why I used the example of the guy at Sportsman's Warehouse. It's really a situation of "what are you going to do?" Just because some guy rattles off a total BS story to you, doesn't mean you should punch him in the ear or push him down or something. That's why I was like, "cool story bro." and walked away. I understand what you are saying and it's easy to get wrapped up in. Obviously I addressed your point from a different angle and wish that I hadn't, because it really just sounds like I'm standing up for e-thugs. That wasn't my intention.

[GreenScoutII]

I tend to think a little civility goes a long way. Also, arguing about 9mm vs .45 ACP, 5.56 vs 7.62, and aparently, 12 ga buckshot vs 12 ga birdshot is a lot like arguing politics. The fencesitters might be swayed, but the true believers on either side will never change their opinions.

I guess having been married twice, divorced once, and being the father of four girls has given me my lifetime maximum saturation for arguing already. I simply don't have the energy anymore, so I try to be nice even when I completely disagree.

[Irving]

Also, kind of like how people post their credentials, I just chose an appropriate avatar.

[BigBear]

Also, kind of like how people post their credentials, I just chose an appropriate avatar.

HAHAHAHA.


"at'll do donkey... 'at'all do."

[iamhunter]

And besides, everyone is entitled to their own opinion and preferences.

Telling other people they are "wrong" makes you just as much of an ass (sorry stuart) as anyone.

the best thing you can do is provide the facts and let them decide for themselves.

[275RLTW]

Thane,
Thanks for the insertion of levelheadedness there. It is easy to continue an angument when others challenge your personal experiences. The purpose of some of the threads has slipped, something easily fixed though. Sometimes we need to be calmed down when we get worked up. Chime in at any time, I'll always appreciate it.

[StagLefty]

After finally reaching a mature level in life -you never stop learning new things from others-the internet can be awfully confusing about who your communicating with-if you disagree that's fine BUT it doesn't call for loss of civility-with that said it's time for some soup and a nap !