Fathers....

[BigBear]

Everyone my wife and I are surrounded by is pregnant. Got word last month that my brothers' wife is pregnant. Recieved word yesterday that my sister is pregnant and one of my really good friends' wife is expecting. My wife has several friends/clients that are pregnant...

We've wanted kids for a while. I would LOVE to be a father!! I think I'd be halfway decent at it too. We've been trying for a while with no avail which makes me feel depressed and like I'm a failure as I feel like there is something "wrong" with me. We've both been to the docs and things seem to be working right.

Oh well, maybe it's just not God's timing. It would be very difficult for us right now to raise and support a child, so maybe it's a blessing in disgiuse.... but when I think about how we couldn't afford to have a child right now it takes me back into the cycle of feeling depressed as I ought to be able to provide for my family. I have two (useless/meaningless) advanced degrees but no job in that field. A ton of student loans and just grrr...


Just wanted to vent a little.

On the bright side, I do get a lot of pie... so I guess I can't complain! Keep my chin up and all that jazz.... One day.... It'll get better.... blah, blah, blah.
Carry on.

[mx'r]

All in due time. I was blessed with 3, but none were planned. The first one was in highschool, and the other two soon after. I wish sometimes that my wife and I would have been more mature and had a little more stability before the kido's came. It'll happen, just be happy that it's planned.. Also, parenting is VERY hard. It's not all laughter and smiles. Good Luck though.

[Marlin]

Well, not to sound bitter, One day you may wake up to find that all the people you grew up with are becoming grandparents..




Just sayin'..

[BigBear]

Yes Sir Marlin.... I'll buy you a beer you bitter old man! lol.

[trlcavscout]

Everyone my wife and I are surrounded by is pregnant. Got word last month that my brothers' wife is pregnant. Recieved word yesterday that my sister is pregnant and one of my really good friends' wife is expecting. My wife has several friends/clients that are pregnant...

We've wanted kids for a while. I would LOVE to be a father!! I think I'd be halfway decent at it too. We've been trying for a while with no avail which makes me feel depressed and like I'm a failure as I feel like there is something "wrong" with me. We've both been to the docs and things seem to be working right.

Oh well, maybe it's just not God's timing. It would be very difficult for us right now to raise and support a child, so maybe it's a blessing in disgiuse.... but when I think about how we couldn't afford to have a child right now it takes me back into the cycle of feeling depressed as I ought to be able to provide for my family. I have two (useless/meaningless) advanced degrees but no job in that field. A ton of student loans and just grrr...


Just wanted to vent a little.

On the bright side, I do get a lot of pie... so I guess I can't complain! Keep my chin up and all that jazz.... One day.... It'll get better.... blah, blah, blah.
Carry on.

Have your wife baby sit some new born's and be around them. For some reason in my family that triggers something. Every time someone has a baby someone else gets pregnant. Luckily I am fixed now but my wifes doctor said when a women is around a new born it does something to them?


Of course today is my birthday and I am home alone with my 2 kids, all I wanted for my birthday was for them to clean the living room. Anybody want to kids that wont even clean the living room? I am gonna put them on CL soon.

[Byte Stryke]

I'll let you in on my secret.


Janette and I weren't planning.
I put a sizable down payment on a brand new Harley Davidson and Pop.. Bunny died.


not financially recommended, but it worked for us.

Kids are WAY Cooler than Harleys Anyway

[BigBear]

Have your wife baby sit some new born's ... I am gonna put them on CL soon.

She has babysitted both our niece and nephew since they were born. I don't know if putting them on CL will solve anything for you! HAHA.

I put a sizable down payment on a brand new Harley Davidson....

Kids are WAY Cooler than Harleys Anyway

If I could afford to purchase a Harley, lol. Kids are great, I love my neice/nephew even if they aren't mine. I belive you've seen their pics in my house. They are loads of fun! lol.

[Troublco]

Well, Bear, since no one else has I feel I should point out that practice makes perfect!



I do agree with Byte Stryke and MX'R. Kids are cooler than Harleys, and they are a ton of work. Parenting is the hardest thing I've ever done. I have two with special needs, and they are simultaneously the best things to ever happen to me and the source of 90% of the stress in my life. I still wouldn't trade 'em.


Two things I heard once about Parenting, that I have tried hard to use as a guide ever since. First, "If you fail as a parent, nothing else you ever do matters." So when I'm losing my patience (or have already lost it) I think about that and make sure that my kids know I love them, even if I'm upset with them. Second, "Once you have kids your life is no longer your own." Man, I had NO idea how true that was.

I'm sure it'll happen. Just keep practicin'......

[BigBear]

Troublco!!! Wonderful, lol.

Hey honey... I need to practice!

She bought me a shirt. I'll never wear it in public but it's funny. It says "I'm not bald, that's just the solar panel for the sex machine!"

[Drilldo]

If I were you, I wouldn't focus too much on not having a baby. just enjoy trying trying to have one and enjoy the freedom now.

Also, use this time to aggressively pay off your debts and save up a nice emergency fund. You will be amazed at how quickly your cash gets used up when you have a kiddo around.

I don't have a kiddo of my own, but my girlfriend has a 2.5 y/o and Elliana's father lives in Atlanta. That makes me Dada Chris, with all of the responsibilities of a parent. (I am already planning on having a Co AR-15 BBQ and gun cleaning party for the night her first date shows up. You are all invited.)

Trust me on this one, take your time. Enjoy your life as it is right now and when it happens you will enjoy that time much more as well.