ever had a relative turtle up and just go missing?

[Drilldo]

Well I have one. Over the last month she has just closed herself off, won't answer my calls, emails nor texts. She is doing the same to my mother. Before this, she was always open with us and would let us know what is going on. I am not sure what to do. I sent her these messages trying to get her to answer, to no avail.

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Usually she would find this amusing and call me. No word yet and I am starting to get concerned.

Should I just go and show up at her house?

[BigBear]

Usually she would find this amusing and call me. No word yet and I am starting to get concerned.

Should I just go and show up at her house?

If she would usually call you, then YES, go to her house. I can think of several things of where one might cut themselves off from friends and family. Top of the list is thoughts of suicide. And don't laugh it off, perfectly sane people can contemplate suicide and if left unchecked could (or could not due to logical rationalizing) lead to the committing of the act.

[Irving]

How far away is she? I'll go to her house for you if it's closer to me than you.

[68Charger]

I have a brother-in-law that goes into this mode regularly..
In his case it's usually one of 3 things:

Depression- he'll sleep until afternoon, and just doesn't have the motivation to do anything

Drugs- he's been addicted to Meth, and when he was/is taking it, he'll sever all contact with the real world

Withdrawl- he has a new girlfriend, and he's just totally focused on HER, and doesn't want any distractions

He generally snaps out of it and then contacts someone when he needs something (he calls me if his vehicle breaks down, his mom if he needs food or money, etc)

If it's abnormal behavior for her, I'd go visit & just let her know you're concerned about her- if it's depression or drugs, that will make a world of difference to them, and start a road to recovery.

I don't mean to imply or insult by bringing up drugs, I don't know her, just relating my experience with family...

[StagLefty]

Sounds like you need to do a welfare check in person-NOW !!

[Gritty]

Any chance of bipolarity or an off the grid work situation?

[WillysWagon]

Sounds like you need to do a welfare check in person-NOW !!

This........

[funkfool]

My sister....
She did a disappearing act at 18 for 5 years...
Showed up with a son...
Then at 25 for 5 more...
Showed up with a daughter...
Then at 32 she pulled an 18 year disappearance...
Bailed on her kids...
Missed the death of their father - her ex...
Missed the illness and eventual death of our father...

I hadn't seen her since '92 or so...
She called me about 8 months ago...
She came out to see me last month...
It was hard to convince my brother to come and visit her when she was here....
Glad I saw her - glad she is alive...
We thought the worst...
Same issues, drug, alcohol and substance abuse, domestic violence... you name it...
She is clean and sober for 7 years now (She says)...
I talk to her on the phone about once every few weeks...



I say - go - show up at her house...
It is better knowing...

[theGinsue]

Amen. Go check up on her. If you can't get a response from her, consider asking the police for a welfare check. If she rents, a landlord can let the police in to check up on her. I don't know what hte rules are for home owners.

Aside from the things she may have done to herself, she may have been the victim of a crime or sudden illness and need medical attention.

[Byte Stryke]

Amen. Go check up on her. If you can't get a response from her, consider asking the police for a welfare check. If she rents, a landlord can let the police in to check up on her. I don't know what hte rules are for home owners.

Aside from the things she may have done to herself, she may have been the victim of a crime or sudden illness and need medical attention.

if its DPD just say "I think she has a gun!"
They will beat the door down and... never mind, that goes bad from There

Is it just me or does it seem like only time I hear from family is when they want something from me?

just sayin'