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    Default Divorced guys: When did you know it was over

    I've been a member for a few years now but I'm going through a pending divorce so I needed to create an alias.

    For you divorced folks, when did you decide it wasn't worth it anymore? How did you know? What did it take?

    I've only been married about four years but it seems like she has completely fallen out of love with me. She lies to me consistently and when I catch her in a blatant lie she acts like it's no big deal. It's not little things, but she lies about who she's with and where she is. I'm not sure if she's cheating but I don't see when she would have the time to do so but I don't know. She has been "going out" a lot more after work lately and doesn't tell me she's going out, just shows up home late after not answering her phone with alcohol on her breath. She is with people I know and unless they are all lying to me as well then I don't think she's cheating. There is a lot of other little things, I feel like I'm the only one trying, she doesn't care that our marriage has gone to crap. If she cared and was willing to work at the marriage it would be one thing but it seems like she's over it.

    Worst thing too, I cannot afford a divorce lawyer. I don't have much and I don't think she would come after me for what I do have but you hear horror stories all the time.

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    when she decided she liked women as much as I did.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Byte Stryke View Post
    when she decided she liked women as much as I did.

    o_0


    Shit- thats the time to really keep her at all cost
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    Do you have kids? I've seen it a few times from both sides. One thing I can tell you is that you just know, when you truly feel you've been wronged it's probably good to go with your heart.
    Last edited by Graves; 01-13-2011 at 21:03. Reason: Hear"t" not hear"d"
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    Quote Originally Posted by Skier View Post
    "...when did you decide it wasn't worth it anymore? How did you know? What did it take?"
    I can't answer those questions but...I can say "you know." As an aside, my divorce was back in 92', no kids and very amicable but...damn...ya' just know.

    My only piece of shit advice; "regardless of what you think you have, or don't have, lawyer-up before any final decree."

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    Quote Originally Posted by Graves View Post
    Do you have kids?
    No kids

    Quote Originally Posted by cebeu View Post
    I can't answer those questions but...I can say "you know." As an aside, my divorce was back in 92', no kids and very amicable but...damn...ya' just know.

    My only piece of shit advice; "regardless of what you think you have, or don't have, lawyer-up before any final decree."
    Yeah, I kinda figured that, don't know where the money is going to come from.

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    NO kids................RUN.

    If your having problems with no rug rats, It only gets harder with them. Children help keep you together but somethimes it's just better to let each other go.
    You know in your heart what to do.
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    have you talked to her about counseling.

    do you think she is developing a drinking problem?


    there is ALWAYS time for cheating. If you have a deep down gut feeling, and are seriously worried about it, bring it up. ask her only once and see the reaction. of course the answer is going to be NO, but see how she reacts. if it is enough to make you question more, do some investigating.

    if she is in fact, that will help you a lot in the divorce.

    I hate to see people get divorced, but people change, things changes, priorities change. at least in your case no kids are involved as they are truly the ones who suffer.


    I also 2nd on selling anything important to you to a trusted friend and she will get 1/2 the money. I strongly support that you lawyer up. be first, strike hard and show no mercy. from all the stories I have even read, they definitely show no mercy.
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    How old are you and wife?

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    Sorry to make a joke about ByteStryke's comment.
    I know you have to be hurting.
    I have never been divorced so I am on the outside looking in.
    But I have been married for 24 years and with her for 28 and we have had our ups and downs.
    Nothing stings like doubts.
    Not coming home, drinking and not answering the phone are all big time red flags.
    The lying is is another one.
    Trust has been violated, and it is a hard thing to get back and it takes a long time.
    Dont trust her friends, they may very well be laying cover for her.
    If she has not cheated as yet all the signs are there that she will soon.

    Does she want this marriage?
    Do you want this marriage?

    The brother in law has been married and divorced twice and he put it well. "If you are asking yourself the questions you are, then you have your answer."

    If a divorce is imminent are you at least amicable? If so you may be able to save on an attorney and do much yourselves.
    Otherwise as it was said-Lawyer up-hit first, hit hard.
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