Divorced guys: When did you know it was over

[BlasterBob]

Please, do NOT think that I am trying to funny but this "D" stuff is completely new to me. I am truly sad to hear of so damn many marriages being ripped apart.
This is all kinda like a soap opera to me and I had no idea about these serious things going on. Kinda difficult for me to understand since my Mrs. and I will be celebrating our 50th wedding anniversary in less than a month. So, I do have to admit that I have a "keeper" and she has never indicated ANY dissatisfaction with all the guns and gun stuff and gadgets that I have accumulated over the past 50 years. Something that is just about impossible to believe is that we have never NEVER had a fight/scrap, either physical or even verbal. Now, you know she has to be a VERY tolerable little lady.....

[BlasterBob]

Wow, looks like my post kinda "killed" this interesting thread. Sorry about that!

[theGinsue]

I dont think the "sold all my guns for a buck" claim will hold up against a good lawyer.

I can tell you from almost going through a divirce back in 99 that this will NOT work - you will have to ante up 50% of the Fair Market Value of each gun, and more often than not, what your wife's attorney determines to be the Fair Market Value is about 150% of the reall fair market value.

BEFORE any action (including conversation) for divorce is taken, make them disappear. Take photos of EVERYTHING (other than the firearms) that you own so if she gets a restraining order against you that blocks you from your own home you will have documentation and proof of ownership of items that she may choose to sell behind your back.

If you end up leaving the "marital home" to live somewhere else during the process, take EVERYTHING you want with you. Bear in mind that you must leave her with proper accomodations (furniture) to live by, but even obtaining items alloted to you in a divorce decree is difficult.

One of my best friends and hunting partners just went through a divorce where personal possessions "disappeared" from his marital home after he moved out and trying to get back in to get things like clothes, hunting/camping gear was a NIGHTMARE and required surveillance and a commando style collection mission (whereas he had even hired a private security guy as a witness to what was taken).

After the court ordered divorce decree, there were still things that he found difficult (some were impossible) to find and retrieve.

Not sure where you are but there is a place in west Boulder County that be used for any storage needs you may have. PM if needed.

This is really where the trust of someone you know would come in - have the storage put in your friends/family members name - not yours. This way there are all sorts of legal hurtles she'd have to go through to get into it (and a good lawyer WILL find it!).

[funkfool]

So, I do have to admit that I have a "keeper" and she has never indicated ANY dissatisfaction with all the guns and gun stuff and gadgets that I have accumulated over the past 50 years. ......... Now, you know she has to be a VERY tolerable little lady.....

Sounds like you got a great lady.
I have been married for 1.5 yrs so I am still a newlywed so to speak... but - had other long term relationships that ended in a variety of ways...

[RobertB]

I will interject the only advice that hasn't been said thus far: you truly don't know someone until your start divorcing them. In my personal and observed experiences, women get more evil and vindictive than the husband ever anticipates...

I'd agree but amend that to say that divorce (or hell, just bad times) changes people. It will apply to you just as much to her. Protect yourself as much as you can and bless the fact you don't have kids.

Also, keep in mind that any joint debt is still your problem, no matter what happens in a settlement. The companies that own the debt don't care. Cancel your credit cards. A day or two before you hit her with paperwork, empty your bank account (and switch your direct deposit, if any) into a separate individual account and close out any overdraft funds. Don't use the same bank, either. She may still get access to it via settlement, but at least she can't spend it out from under you beforehand.

[2ndAmendment]

Best of luck bud....god bless

[Mtn.man]

When is it over,,, when you said I DO...

another note, go out and find a chick you like and then BUY her a house and move on......(Rod Stewart)