Divorced guys: When did you know it was over

[BPTactical]

Sorry to make a joke about ByteStryke's comment.
I know you have to be hurting.
I have never been divorced so I am on the outside looking in.
But I have been married for 24 years and with her for 28 and we have had our ups and downs.
Nothing stings like doubts.
Not coming home, drinking and not answering the phone are all big time red flags.
The lying is is another one.
Trust has been violated, and it is a hard thing to get back and it takes a long time.
Dont trust her friends, they may very well be laying cover for her.
If she has not cheated as yet all the signs are there that she will soon.

Does she want this marriage?
Do you want this marriage?

The brother in law has been married and divorced twice and he put it well. "If you are asking yourself the questions you are, then you have your answer."

If a divorce is imminent are you at least amicable? If so you may be able to save on an attorney and do much yourselves.
Otherwise as it was said-Lawyer up-hit first, hit hard.

[hurley842002]

I don't really have any advice to give you (never been married and my longest relationship is my current one of 3yrs), but i'd like to wish you the best, and I hope everything turns out well for you.