I've been a member for a few years now but I'm going through a pending divorce so I needed to create an alias.

For you divorced folks, when did you decide it wasn't worth it anymore? How did you know? What did it take?

I've only been married about four years but it seems like she has completely fallen out of love with me. She lies to me consistently and when I catch her in a blatant lie she acts like it's no big deal. It's not little things, but she lies about who she's with and where she is. I'm not sure if she's cheating but I don't see when she would have the time to do so but I don't know. She has been "going out" a lot more after work lately and doesn't tell me she's going out, just shows up home late after not answering her phone with alcohol on her breath. She is with people I know and unless they are all lying to me as well then I don't think she's cheating. There is a lot of other little things, I feel like I'm the only one trying, she doesn't care that our marriage has gone to crap. If she cared and was willing to work at the marriage it would be one thing but it seems like she's over it.

Worst thing too, I cannot afford a divorce lawyer. I don't have much and I don't think she would come after me for what I do have but you hear horror stories all the time.