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    Living in a hospice situation that is dragging out much longer than anyone anticipated, really blows ass. The toll it takes on everybody involved is incredible.

    Some may remember I mentioned that I've never experienced something like this, but I wouldn't back out on a family in a time of need. And that still stands.

    However, if faced with participating in this type of situation again, I will opt out and recommend that professionals in an accredited facility manage the passing of a loved one. I'll plan my visits and do what I can to bring whatever level of comfort I can provide during those times.....and maintain some level of personal life and rest that is required for someone that is going to work every day. I had no idea just how draining this process can be, and the different stages of "caregiver" emotional roller coaster ride is about....and watching a mind and body revert back to an infantile state.

    I've seen and learned a lot this far into it, I'll see it through, and check that box completed.


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    Sorry OBC, thst stuff is tough.

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    I didn't realize you were going hands on buddy. That's got to be rough. When my family member decided to do that, it was done in two weeks. You've got to be experiencing stuff you never thought you would. Hang in there.

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    Sure as shit isn't easy OBC. If you need to talk hit me up bro

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    Sorry you have to endure this Chris.

    I can only imagine what you must be going through - doing this while working a full time job and trying to do life.

    My father was under hospice care for an extended period with my mother as the primary caregiver and a nurse coming in periodically. We were there only the last week after receiving the dreaded, but expected, phone call. It was a stressful, dreadful situation. It was heartbreaking to see my father in such a frail and helpless condition.

    You're a better man for having stepped up to such a huge responsibility and undertaking.
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    Thank you, gentleman. I do appreciate it, and possibly more than you might think.

    I am not blood in this situation, but that alone is not a reason to care less about people who are struggling through a tough deal. Folks who are losing their mental capacity can say some very cruel and hurtful things to the very people that are bending over backwards to deliver comfort to them....while they are doing it. Lucid times mingle with the extreme alternative/opposite versions. I didn't know that was part of this process.

    The bottom line of learning about this, for me.....is that I don't ever want to be that age and that state of incapacity. Or to burden people I know. I never want to be like that for my sake, or theirs.
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    If I can't bang the stewardess on a plane going down, or the hot teller during a bank robbery.......I'll handle my business off on my own where it doesn't affect anyone else outside of doing their regular job. I.E. accident investigator surveying the vehicle wreckage at the bottom of the mountain type thing.

    The air time would be exceptional provided you chose the right cliff at the right speed.


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    Don't want to be a drag either, so lets have some fun.

    When was the last boner you had, and how did you use it?....ha ha.


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    I pried open a pickle jar, but I was still in the store when I did it.



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    Sometimes, a frozen box of shit doesn't cover it.....and a peanut butter sandwich chaser is in order.


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