I have two boys in daycare and I don't see a problem with the ideals they learn there. It's more like a social learning thing. They are learning how to act in one social setting (daycare) and at home. Daycare for example does not allow any mention of guns, no pointing fingers and saying bang of any kind. At home my kids have a small arsenal of toy guns and swords. They know how to act at daycare and have fun at home playing army. They understand the difference and act accordingly.