Help me out here...

[mevshooter]

Why do people assume that because you're co-workers that THAT in itself automatically makes you friends, or should make one more inclined to feel obligated to hang out outside of work or participate in activities outside of work?

I am by no means a hermit or a recluse. I'm incredibly outgoing and the "life of the party" type, but geez... I have my own family and my own friends. Sure, if I end up working with somebody and our personalities click like that, an outside friendship situation is possible. But why is it expected? And why can it sometimes affect (or is it effect?) your potential for advancement in a company when a boss says "you're not being a team player" because I don't go to the bar 2 or 3 times a week after work with people? It has NOTHING to do with how I interact with people while on the clock, so it's B.S. that that can be considered for on the clock matters.

And (yeah, go ahead, I'm used to people talking crap) especially when people find out I don't drink?

And holy crap... I spend 8-10 hours a day with these people... I get to actually SPEND TIME with my wife maybe 2-3 hours a night after the baby is taken care of, we have eaten, and whatever other business that needs to be taken care of is accomplished. Sometimes it's only an hour. And the weekends? Please, that's when the real work begins sometimes, especially since I have online and weekend classes.

AH!!!!!

Okay, I feel better.

[ray1970]

A- I don't trust people who don't drink.

and

B- I totally agree with you.

(Just kidding about "A" by the way)

I don't know why people think you are their "friend" just because you work together. Really baffles me. I am a bit more selective about who I consider my friends and don't just let my boss hire them for me.

[DANGERTASTIC!]

Im with you all the way on this one. Its like you were describing me at my place of work. How about getting chastized for not showing up to these social functions! This happened to me Monday morning when I didnt make it to the "annual BBQ", it was our sons Bday party.

And how about after you get after someone for not doing their job and they look at you like you're the biggest ass in the world. I feel ya

[Mtn.man]

We have em, but hell we are all crazy bike riding drunk fuk'n sons o bitches and not showing up means death, or worse.

[Mtn.man]

On the other hand maybe at our next PIG roast all you guys need to show up.

[mevshooter]

A- I don't trust people who don't drink.

I had a fire chief tell me that once... I was delivering his hot tub and he offered me a beer. "I don't trust a man who turns down a free beer."

I didn't get tipped... oh well.

How about getting chastized for not showing up to these social functions! This happened to me Monday morning when I didnt make it to the "annual BBQ", it was our sons Bday party.

And how about after you get after someone for not doing their job and they look at you like you're the biggest ass in the world. I feel ya

So, almost every year, the owner of the company I work for does like a "fun day" where he pays us our 8 hours, and will take us to those fast go carts and benihana, or something similar. Well, since everyone on the crew found out he has a lake house (it's a pimped out double wide, I've been told) everyone just wants to go to the lake all day and ride in his boat, tube, etc. Here's my problem:

1) I'm not THAT much of a lake person. I enjoy fishing, maybe a little swimming, but my 300 pound butt get's KILLED out on the lake, so I stay closer to shore.

2) I really don't like anyone I work with. Most of them are stoners and pretty much completely worthless in their personal lives, so I have nothing to talk to them about.

I've always opted instead to put in a full days work, and skip the lake day. Last year, it wasn't that big of a problem, but for some reason the owner got somewhat upset. When my boss told him it was because "he doesn't think it's fair that he gets to go to the lake while his wife stays at home with the baby" the owner replied "well tell him to find a babysitter and bring the wife." Our babies 3 months old, she's our first, I'm not leaving her for an entire day+, not in me, and ESPECIALLY not with people I DON'T LIKE!!!!

But nooooooooo, I can't tell them that, because I'm an a**hole, and everyone is a butt hurt little girl... IT'S RIDICULOUS!!!!!

Luckily I used the TRUE excuse "our baby doesn't bottle feed, so we can't leave her for that long."

Now, I may have to work while others play, but I will be by MYSELF for an entire day, with no one checking in on my day, or bugging me about my progress.

On the other hand maybe at our next PIG roast all you guys need to show up.

Pig roasts are AWESOME.

And at least I know I'd have something to talk to you guys about.

I'm not anti-alcohol by any means. I'm not uncomfortable around people who drink, it's just a choice I made, for myself. No please, drink away. And when you get nice and drunk, I'll ask you for some money. Drunk people tend to be VERY generous.

[DSB OUTDOORS]

On the other hand maybe at our next PIG roast all you guys need to show up.

WoooHooo party at Mtn.mans!! Let me know I'm there!! Let me know what kind of BEER to bring other than Cold!

[Mtn.man]

Will do we usually have one in May, ok always. But we are thinking of having an end of summer one this year sooo yeah will let you guys know.

[Wolfeie]

Mev - please tell me you were kidding about expecting a tip for delivering a hot tub.

I'm a generous guy and all but it would NEVER cross my mind to "tip" a delivery person for a big ticket item - especially where the item is non-functional without delivery/setup. And no, I'm not talking about a pizza.

I guarantee that if I ever got any lip from a delivery person about no tip of a hard item (appliance, hot tub, etc) they would get an earfull as well as written complaint to their manager and preferably the owner of whatever shop.

Entitlement is out of line for doing your job.

Back on topic: Lack of self-esteem is one of the worst afflictions of this country and people who expect to hang or be friends with you outside of work suffer from this ailment. Ignore them and do your thing.

[DANGERTASTIC!]

But nooooooooo, I can't tell them that, because I'm an a**hole, and everyone is a butt hurt little girl... IT'S RIDICULOUS!!!!.

Just yesterday I had to yell at an employee about doing his job, he has been pawning his responsibilities off on two other people and its not their job, anyway, anytime you get after him its just excuse excuse interupt and more arguing.

He said "whatever" (my biggest pet peeve) and I proceeded to rip him up. He went home "Sick" an hour later. That afternoon, another employee informed me about his Facebook update which went something like
"I really hope the world comes to an end today!"

Wow....I would have got the wind knocked out of me for acting like a little bitch like that. But then again, hes one of those stretched ears girl pants wearers. Pussy