Help me out here...

[Ronin13]

How to deal with co-workers... By Edward Norton:

Hence why I'm glad I work in the family business, where it's me, my old man, and one employee... we don't do "esprit de corps" bullshit, we don't hold hands, and if we do hang out outside of work (mostly just me and pops with my brother at a bar or something) it's usually good stuff like taking high-end clients to Avs and Rockies games or one of our companies taking us somewhere. But mev, I hear you, and I remember in my Army days they had "team building" or "moral boosting" events that were pseudo mandatory- meaning you either go to "semi-mandatory fun day" and are forced to hang out with people you normally wouldn't even help change a tire, or they put you on 24-hour staff duty... The only difference was there was no alcohol. I admire guys like you who admittedly don't drink and don't try to preach the consequences to those that do... plus having guys like you around means I give you a $20 and I have a safe ride home! <-yours is O'Douls...

[Mtn.man]

Yeah we are all family here so we have to feel the love. Not much of that hey what you doing this weekend, we already know.LOL

[Graves]

You can always get yourself a real job where you're not surrounded by a bunch of panty waist office types???

[ronaldrwl]

Hmm, not sure how to react. If you like the people around you why not be friendly. If you don't like them, then 'your busy'. Sounds like we have some curmudgeons on this forum. Or did I miss the point?

[Mtn.man]

Don't use big words. "curmudgeons" without proper definition.
Grouchy...

[mevshooter]

I admire guys like you who admittedly don't drink and don't try to preach the consequences to those that do... plus having guys like you around means I give you a $20 and I have a safe ride home! <-yours is O'Douls...

YES!!!! You get it! You understand, that guys like you, need guys like me. We make sure you get home safe, and don't take home any coyote dates, or tranny's.

Unless you're into that kind of thing... then the going rate is $50!

HA!

You can always get yourself a real job where you're not surrounded by a bunch of panty waist office types???

This is a blue collar delivery job. Unfortunately, they're EVERYWHERE!!!!! haha

Hmm, not sure how to react. If you like the people around you why not be friendly. If you don't like them, then 'your busy'. Sounds like we have some curmudgeons on this forum. Or did I miss the point?

I think you might have missed my intended point. It's not about being "friendly," I pride myself in my ability to be friendly to just about anyone. My company depends on my "every man" personality to be able to properly deal with and help solve or ease difficult situations and people. So with that, I can admit that it's probably partially my fault why people may assume I want to hang out with them on the weekends, being so "friendly" to them and what not.

This is more about the expectation that people have towards their coworkers in regards to EXPECTING them to come to the bars after work, or EXPECTING people to come to weekend or off time get togethers.

Honestly, "I'm busy", "I have plans," people are incredibly persistent, and often won't take no for an answer. That opens up the entirely new topic of "boundaries" that a lot of people just don't have, but that's a different topic for a different day.

Unfortunately in the overly sensitive, sugar coated society we live in, if I say "I don't spend personal time with coworkers, i don't mix business and personal life" people become incredibly offended, gossip about me, and now my job becomes more difficult as people either won't help me when I need them, or will intentionally make my life difficult.

If that makes me a curmudgeon, then I guess I'm a big nasty curmudgeon.


Is a curmudgeon what happens when Kermit the Frog... eats a McMuffin... in a Geo?

Because if it is... DAMN.

[sniper7]

On the other hand maybe at our next PIG roast all you guys need to show up.

a date and an invite is in order!

[Ronin13]

YES!!!! You get it! You understand, that guys like you, need guys like me. We make sure you get home safe, and don't take home any coyote dates, or tranny's.

Unless you're into that kind of thing... then the going rate is $50!

HA!

Except when your friends try to be funny and don't tell you in your current state of inebriation that the 10 you're talking to is really a 5 and you shouldn't proceed with going home with her, then you get laughed on for weeks! Man my friends can be assholes, and whiskey makes my judgement go right out the window! But still tranny free (for now, we'll see how "cool" my friends are in the coming months).

[Mtn.man]

a date and an invite is in order!

Talked to the boys last night we are theying to come up with a date, not too cold, can't interfere with hunting etc...

[Inspector Fowler]

I rarely make work friends. Sometimes you just hit it off with one or two people and you end up becoming legitimate buddies, but while I am friendly with almost everybody I work with I never hang out with them.

I don't go to a work social function like a BBQ or dinner unless I am forced to by my supervisor. At least then I get paid for it.

Like you mentioned, each of us spends 40 or more hours a week with co-workers, and unless you just luck out and all your co-workers kick ass, there isn't much reason to hang out with them beyond that.