Raising teenagers

[sometimesright]

Well, being on the daughter side of the teenage raising, I really don't mean this the way it may sound, but I'm thinking raising boys may be a little less "involved" than raising the female version. Sounds like conversations need to be had all the way around. The "nothing happened" story is a popular one, and sometimes true. I'd rather not take the risk, however, and begin some candid conversations. Better to be involved than not...

It is a difficult call, but I'm thinking I might also have a conversation with the parents on the other side. Ignorance may be bliss, but speaking only for me, I'd like to know (even though I'd like to believe it wouldn't happen) so I could have some discussion. No matter what all the books and experts say, emotions sometimes come into play when parenting and the good advice isn't always easy to follow.

You do the best you can and hope for the best (and as a father of a teenage daughter always remind the gentleman callers that you have firearms - and if the father of a teenage boy, remind him the father may have firearms).

[sniper7]

I just had a son, so I haven't experience all those years of parenting, but as for right now, I would have left well enough alone and talked to him about it later. If not he will always have his dad walking in on him in the back of his mind. even if he didn't go all the way with them.

I would think I raised him well enough to use protection, as getting a girl pregnant at that age is a whole new issue. But they are old enough to know, both boys and girls.

Of course if this was my daughter it would be a whole different issue, guess it all depends on what side of the spectrum you are on.

[Graves]

Niiiiiiicccccce.



Sorry, had to.

[DD977GM2]

Tad conflicted here...

One one hand I concur with you as a father that the behavior is wholly unacceptable.


on the other hand I would want to pat him on the back for getting the 3-some on at 15

I agree 100% with ya. Id secretly wanna high five my son for having 2 chicks in his bed.

Limited GM where they cute girls or just run of the mill plain Janes?

[Graves]

In reality two 5's make a 10. Two 10's make a 10².

[Irving]

I'd say that it is your job to cock block him until he is no longer under your care. He's young and has a long life ahead of him. He can chase tail when he's out of your house. Until then, he needs to follow your rules and understand the consequences if he doesn't.

[jerrymrc]

I almost would rather raise girls than boys. Raised some of each and had the fun of having a few in HS, a few in middle school and one in grade school at the same time.

[275RLTW]

Don't forget to look at it from HIS side as well...remember, we were all there once.

1) He felt comfortable enough with YOU to bring girls there and not go to a hotel, abandoned house, etc.
2) He knew that he could get caught & and you would know what he/they are up to
3) YOU cannot control all of his actions. You can however, make sure he knows what the consequences of his choices may bring, the amout of maturitity needed on his part, and how to be a man vice just a dad.

Tough times and I'm glad I'm not there (yet) with my boys, but do aproach him carefully: if he wants to act like a man now, then put it to him that way...

Good luck

If you need, you have my cell #

[Mtn.man]

In the olden days we just beat em.

Thank goodness we sold ours when they came of age.

[jerrymrc]

In the olden days we just beat em.

Thank goodness we sold ours when they came of age.

So that is how you went into debt back then.