marriage counseling

[Sharpienads]

I'm of no help to this thread, but have a question ....




So before you got married, and every month you go see a marriage counselor? I love my wife, but if we needed counseling BEFORE we got married, I would have thought twice about marrying her

It's pre-marital counseling. Not beause you have problems, but to make sure you're ready to get married and understand what it's all about. Sounds like a good idea to me.

[vim]

Good luck. Me and the missus did this some 30 years ago and it's probably all that kept us together.

[CO303303]

check with you local church group, it's cheaper but it does tends to involve Christ, if that is your thing.

[mevshooter]

I'm of no help to this thread, but have a question ....




So before you got married, and every month you go see a marriage counselor? I love my wife, but if we needed counseling BEFORE we got married, I would have thought twice about marrying her

I personally was seeing a counselor dealing with my childhood and other B.S. from 16 to 19. My wife and I went back to this same counselor before we got married for about 15 premarital counseling sessions because I have seen what happens when people who THINK they know each other and how the other person feels about serious issues before they get married have the almighty smack of reality upside their heads when they realize they didn't actually know much of anything.

As was mentioned:

It's pre-marital counseling. Not because you have problems, but to make sure you're ready to get married and understand what it's all about. Sounds like a good idea to me.

My wife and I have been going once a month since our daughter was born to help with her postpartum depression linked to pregnancy (which about 80% of women go through in varying degrees) as well as looking for an unbiased voice in helping us adjust to the new addition as well as how it has and will continue to completely change our lives together.

It's not about how many problems we have, it is about addressing things before they become problems. It is much easier to do it that way, than it is to watch things build up over years and years and see them begin to fall apart in front of your eyes.

Just my $20 and .02 cents.

To the OP, I hope everything works out for you, and I apologize for the thread jacking.

[glock21]

No worries, I like to hear other peoples take on it. Looks like its to late for my marriage but I think I'll still go so I can fix my problems, 80% of why why my marriage failed was cause of me.

[Byte Stryke]

No worries, I like to hear other peoples take on it. Looks like its to late for my marriage but I think I'll still go so I can fix my problems, 80% of why why my marriage failed was cause of me.

It's only too late if you quit trying.

I have to say, t's mighty big of you to own up like that to the 80%.
But its my experience that unless there are addiction problems (Makes it 100-0), then its a 50/50 deal... we all have our moments of fault, Love is seeing that in your partner, accepting it and understanding, communicating that in a compassionate and understanding manner that will allow the both of you to learn and grow from it.

I Pray for you and the Mrs... I really do. Both of you will suffer from the divorce. The real victim, no matter how hard you try to shelter her from it will be your daughter. Keep up the the good fight.

[hunterhawk]

sorry to hear that! Like you said if it is you get help... but like stated maybe its not too late doesnt hurt to get help...might show her you care enough!

good luck

[glock21]

Thanks guys, I found a place that's will except my med insurance. I'm gonna keep trying until she falls in love with me again or gets a restraining order lol. No but serious I'm not giving up on her. Thanks again.

[Byte Stryke]

Thanks guys, I found a place that's will except my med insurance. I'm gonna keep trying until she falls in love with me again or gets a restraining order lol. No but serious I'm not giving up Our Family. Thanks again.

[glock21]

Looks like things might be going good, spent all weekend with my family and it was great... p.S. I'm going to be a DAD again