Divorce, so close!

[glock21]

So my Wife and I have been seperated for 1.5 years and have been dicussing divorce. I have been doing alot of thinking about how much I still really love her. Ive been cold towards her thinking she wants a divorce and it would help her move on.
yesterday i recieved a text message asking me when i stopped loving her. I sat back to think and realized im still in love with her. After a night of talking wr both realized we cant be happy without eachother and are hoping to make our family work no matter how hard times get.

sometimes life hits you hard for the better. I want my family back and im willing to fight till the end. HAVE A GOOD DAY BROTHERS!

[hghclsswhitetrsh]

Wow man, good news. Good luck to you both.

[spleify]

That was a statement from a true man.

Congrats and good luck man. If you feel things are getting tough, give me a shout and lets talk it out.

[Mazin]

congrats man!

[DD977GM2]

Your a bettre man than I. If I got seperated by my suggestion or her suggestion,
its the end for the marriage for good in my mind.
I have been through 1 divorce and dealt with the "trying" and it wasnt worth it
one bit.

Good luck and hoping for the best for you guys

[cofi]

Your a bettre man than I. If I got seperated by my suggestion or her suggestion,
its the end for the marriage for good in my mind.
I have been through 1 divorce and dealt with the "trying" and it wasnt worth it
one bit.

Good luck and hoping for the best for you guys

this....i dont mean to be a wet blanket but after 1.5 years your probably just romanticizing the old relationship

[glock21]

Thanks guys. Im not a naive man. I know when its time to walk away. We seperated over me being hard headed. I wasnt willing to change my ways. For those of you that know me can understand lok. Ive grown a bit more and understand its a 50/50 effort to make any relationship work. Ive only been in half of the 50. We all grow up sooner or later and mine was later.

[JoeT]

good for you man...I've been married 17 years and the night before my wedding, my wife's grandfather pulled me aside.

he said "getting divorced is easy, staying married is hard work...but it's worth it"

his wife passed away last year after 70 years together

[Tim K]

I'm not a marriage counselor, but I sit on the board of directors of a group that does counseling. They only counsel couples that are critical. Most are on the edge of divorce or already in the middle of it. In many, many cases there have been one or more affairs.

Our success rate is North of 90%. That's no BS, and we've been doing it for 9 years now. Considering the divorce rate for first time marriages hovers around 50%, it's pretty amazing.

I said all that to say this: nearly all marriages can be saved. In fact, based on our experience, the only ones that can't are those where one or both quit.

Our group uses techniques and tools from all over the counseling world. Training is continuous. These are not so-so counselors, they are superb.

Find one like that, or I can possibly help point you in the right direction if you have an interest. It is a Christ centered philosophy, so if that doesn't work for you I may not be able to make a good recommendation.

Regardless of your spiritual leanings, the principals of a happy marriage are about universal, so it's just a matter of finding someone who knows them.

Good luck!

[BigBear]

Good news! My wife and I have had some rough moments, but it's a great reward when you know you both are on the same page. I'll be prayin' for you!