stone, good points. Technically, the stalker hasn't done anything to warrant a restraining order, its a college campus that she works on and he is a student, so he has every right to be there. But her supervisor is aware of the situation and has made it clear to him that he is stalking her and if he continues, they will expel him. She is learning more about knowing where people are and looking around to monitor things wherever she is at.

ChadAmberg, I brought that up to her, that I'd rather be a third party in a class and have someone else teach her. However, she said she wants to go shooting first, then take a class. I didn't think about how I was going to do it, was planning on shooting a magazine or two and have her watch what I do, then hand it over to her. I've already taught her the firearm laws, might be a good time to quiz her on them and see if she remembers. I will definitely let her do things her way and only step in for a safety violation (or if I see her about to do one). Very good point, thanks for bringing that up!

Holger_Danske, that was kind of the plan. Just take her out, get her over the initial fear of pulling the trigger, and get to know what the recoil feels like, then get her into training.

I'm mostly asking for tips/advice here because I absolutely do NOT want to screw this up. I want to make it as comfortable, relaxed and safe of an environment as possible so she feels at ease the first time she shoots. The plan (that she doesn't know) was to get her into a class, have her start shooting, take her out "shopping" to find what she likes, and then surprise her with a gift of her own pistol after she tries out a lot and really knows what she wants.

My CCW instructor has at least 20 guns he brought to my CCW class for anyone to try out. I may see if he could do something familiar with her.

He was very generous too in saying if we get her into a class, that he'll let me take the class with my fiancee and be right beside her, as a little support, and that he wouldn't charge me to take it. He said that in his experience, some women WANT their husbands to be there, others insist that their husbands are NOT present. My fiancee has already said that she wants me to be there no matter what, even if we have to pay for it (which luckily we don't). I think for her its more of a physical presence that would put her at ease. I don't plan on doing any teaching during the course, just letting him teach her entirely (but answer a quick question if she asks and didn't hear what the instructor said).


At the moment, she is applying to a different job which would get her out of the situation, as well as getting her out of her high stress job (as of the past 6mo). Not to mention, if she got the new job, she'd not longer be working on a college campus and could carry a concealed pistol with her at work. When I brought that up, she was rather intrigued by the thought.