Getting a Divorce

[hatidua]

Good luck, my sympathies.

[wctriumph]

Women want to feel secure

Men want to feel significant

Don't sweat the little things

Everything is a little thing

Works for us for the last 32 years

[BushMasterBoy]

Living well is your best revenge. After seeing disabled veterans suffering more than me, I am glad to be alive! Life is short, enjoy it to the max and realize you are free!

[Cman]

Hang in there it will get better. My son just went though a divorce and is much happier w/o her! He also got custody of his daughter!

[BlasterBob]

It really makes me sad to hear of such break up's. Hearing these kinds of stories just reminds me just how fortunate a bunch of us, still old married guys, have been.

[Sparky]

I think that the filing fee is $195 now. I hope that it as easy as it could be.

$285 in Jeffco I believe

[anaphylaxis]

But either way the split was mutual, we agree on property division and have no children.

[...]

...but the truth is you cannot change someone and they will be who they are now and forever.

Those were probably the two most important lines to keep in mind.

Having BTDT, just go through the process and get it over with. Everything gets a whole lot better from here on out, as trite as it may sound, it's true. By all means indulge in what you want to do. It's important to create some sort of upside to this situation to help see the light at the end of the tunnel. Good luck, and hang in there!

[Aloha_Shooter]

Some things in life are bad
They can really make you mad
Other things just make you swear and curse.
When you're chewing on life's gristle
Don't grumble, give a whistle
And this'll help things turn out for the best...

And...always look on the bright side of life...
Always look on the light side of life...

If life seems jolly rotten
There's something you've forgotten
And that's to laugh and smile and dance and sing.
When you're feeling in the dumps
Don't be silly chumps
Just purse your lips and whistle - that's the thing.

And...always look on the bright side of life...
Always look on the light side of life...

For life is quite absurd
And death's the final word
You must always face the curtain with a bow.
Forget about your sin - give the audience a grin
Enjoy it - it's your last chance anyhow.

So always look on the bright side of death
Just before you draw your terminal breath

Life's a piece of shit
When you look at it
Life's a laugh and death's a joke, it's true.
You'll see it's all a show
Keep 'em laughing as you go
Just remember that the last laugh is on you.

And always look on the bright side of life...
Always look on the right side of life...
(Come on guys, cheer up!)

Always look on the bright side of life...
Always look on the bright side of life...
(Worse things happen at sea, you know.)

Always look on the bright side of life...
(I mean - what have you got to lose?)
(You know, you come from nothing - you're going back to nothing.
What have you lost? Nothing!)

Always look on the right side of life...

[JohnnyEgo]

People change the same way that glaciers change; either so slowly over so long a time as to be undetectable by the constant observer, or they calve in half unexpectedly and reek hell on everything around.

But I digress. You came to an agreement on property, and you have no kids. Better to come to this conclusion and make a clean break before things got a lot more complicated.

[spqrzilla]

From a legal perspective, I see a lot of divorces that were done half-assed. Property settlement agreements that were not followed through upon, or never completed at all.

Don't do a divorce half-assed. Get it done right and completed. Get all property retitled correctly, get mortgages refinanced or get out of the property.

Saw a case recently where a woman needed to get a mortgage modified, and the bank would have done so, if the ex-husband had signed over authority to her. But he'd disappeared after the divorce, the property settlement had never been finished and so wasn't a court order (in which case, the court would have signed for him). Bottom line, couldn't modify mortgage, couldn't short sale, property went to foreclosure and ruined her credit.

Cheap, half-assed divorces are a bad idea.