Getting a Divorce

[spqrzilla]

From a legal perspective, I see a lot of divorces that were done half-assed. Property settlement agreements that were not followed through upon, or never completed at all.

Don't do a divorce half-assed. Get it done right and completed. Get all property retitled correctly, get mortgages refinanced or get out of the property.

Saw a case recently where a woman needed to get a mortgage modified, and the bank would have done so, if the ex-husband had signed over authority to her. But he'd disappeared after the divorce, the property settlement had never been finished and so wasn't a court order (in which case, the court would have signed for him). Bottom line, couldn't modify mortgage, couldn't short sale, property went to foreclosure and ruined her credit.

Cheap, half-assed divorces are a bad idea.

[Ah Pook]

The nutshell version.

It sucks now. It will suck for the near future. You will get through it. It will get better.

Good luck.

[clublights]

no one else has said this .. but I will


GET A LAWYER.

My ex and I seemed to have it all worked out .. and were going to split it off all fair....


then she got a the idea to get mean about it. I dunno where she got it exactly .. but in conversations years after the fact ... her has eluded to her family pushing her into it .

She had a lawyer I didn't (I could not afford one.). I had to buy my own jeep back from her ( was in her name for a short time.. I owned it 3 years before we even met) had to pay all of our mutual bills and pay for her lawyer. Cost me 12K all because I didn't have a lawyer. yeah I got railroaded.

At least talk to one and be ready .

Moral of the story .. never trust a woman in a divorce. She might get a wild hair up her ass and pound you.

[anaphylaxis]

no one else has said this .. but I will


GET A LAWYER.

My ex and I seemed to have it all worked out .. and were going to split it off all fair....

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Moral of the story .. never trust a woman in a divorce. She might get a wild hair up her ass and pound you.

Crap, that's some good advise there. Apparently my cynical attitude has worn down a bit. lol

Anyway, good words there. Even though it was uncontested, I did run our agreement past an attorney (best $250 I've spent) to make sure I was covered. He included several clauses in the agreement that I would have otherwise not known about.

I definitely would recommend chatting with an attorney, even if for just an hour -- it can save you quite a bit of trouble in the long run...

[hawk1]

Now ya know... Why make one mad when you can make 'em all happy?!?