Death.

[Ashton]

This year I've lost a lot... Lost my mom due to cancer. Lost my dog due to either cancer or a heart attack and lost two friends... I'm pretty much over gathering, to greeve at this point. To add onto this I lost another friend who got stabbed to death in wheat ridge like a week ago. I'm honestly not wanting to goto his funeral, and I'm planning on not going for now. I didn't goto his candlelight vigil tonight.

Is it disrespectful to not goto a service? I feel obligated but I feel like I've seen enough death recently being that I was there when my mom passed, dog passed, and two other friends passed...

[islandermyk]

I'm really sorry to hear all of this...

.. I'm really not good at this sh*t...

You've really been through some hard times... but for me, I would go to a service...

Keep your head up and continue to be strong man...

[Irving]

Sorry to hear about your mom.

[Ashton]

I'm really sorry to hear all of this...

.. I'm really not good at this sh*t...

You've really been through some hard times... but for me, I would go to a service...

Keep your head up and continue to be strong man...

I just honestly feel like once someones dead they're dead. I've watched quite a few people die and they don't come back. Which is why I feel that sitting in chairs listening to stories and shit isn't going to do any good or bring them back which is why I honestly don't wan't to go. In reality you'll remember them for the person they were no matter what. No "service" is going to change that IMHO. I just don't see the point in sitting in a chair with tons of people crying around you. But I'm not quite sure if it's disrespectful.

[Ashton]

Sorry to hear about your mom.

Thanks. I'm actually glad she passed... She was in a lot of pain for 4 months (not including chemo treatments just cancer pain). Cancer is a bitch. She's in a better place now.

[Ridge]

Going to the service is up to you. People who know what you've gone through this year, I'm sure would understand why you wouldn't go. You've seen enough of them to last you a lifetime.

[cstone]

Who else would be at the funeral? If the family and friends of your friend will be there, and you care for them as you cared for your friend, then I recommend that you go.

We don't grieve for those who have passed away. We spend time with those we care for and who need to be with others who wish to remember those they have lost.

There is a time for private grief and a time for supporting others and allowing them to support you. For me, funerals and wakes are social events.

I am sorry you have suffered so much this year. When it is possible, you will remember why you are sad. You miss having your loved ones with you. Why? Because of all the good things you shared. Try to spend more time thinking about those things and eventually you will think less about your loss.

At least that is the way it's supposed to work.

[Sharpienads]

I hate going to funerals, too. But just think, would you be going for you, or going for the other people there (friends, family of the departed)?

[Ashton]

There's already 300 + people RSVP'd. He was a bartender... I guarantee 98% of those people know his family.

[Goodburbon]

A funeral is for the living. I've skipped out on a few services just because I couldn't be around it any longer. I did make the wake for about as long as I could stand it. Some people may talk about it, eff em.