Need advice

[One Shot]

Dont do anything stupid. Call the cops..

[TFOGGER]

Former felon? Is he on probation or parole? If so, call the appropriate county's parole office and contact his PO. They can do all sorts of shit to him, including putting his happy ass back in prison.

[Inspector Fowler]

Here is the thing - if you do something stupid, you go to jail, he'll stay out, and keep beating your sister. Nobody wins at all.

I suggest talking to your sister, and telling her in no uncertain terms that you fully intend to go to the police. Tell her that there is no way you will let somebody assault your flesh and blood.

[Bailey Guns]

theGinsue is correct. She doesn't need to press charges. The state/city/county will do it and she doesn't have any say. The catch is there must be probable cause that a crime was committed in order for the police to make an arrest. She's got to have some sort of mark or some other physical evidence. Testimony is usually good enough but, depending on how long ago the last even occurred that might not work.

It's very hard for many women to break the cycle of violence. They feel trapped, dependent or any number of other reasons they can't leave the abuser. As a police officer is was often heartbreaking to see it. I can tell you there were many times I wanted to dish out a little street justice on a few guys. Trouble is, they're usually just punks who wouldn't think twice about hitting a woman...they won't take a poke at another man, though.

[hghclsswhitetrsh]

Catch him in the act and whip his ass, or do your sister a favor and call the cops for her.

[alan0269]

Don't screw up your life and do what most of us would want to do if we had a sister who's husband was hitting her. Unless you catch him in the act, you are not doing anything to stop an immediate threat and you will be the one going to jail - he may go as well, but you would for sure. Call the local P.D. where she lives, advise them of the situation and see what they can do. If he is a convicted felon, his word will not mean as much as that of someone that is not.

Good luck, and prayers going out for your sister that she, or the unborn baby, don't get seriously injured by this a$$hat!!!!

[kwando]

Document every incident. Video or pics of the bruises. Then when she has visable marks on her call the cops, warn them he has been known to carry a gun and you are afraid of her life and the unborn baby. Chances are he will go to jail, you have to be the witness.

[killianak9]

Tough choice .......if she allows you too, ultimately you have to do whats best for her BABY and for Her. In the event God for bid, anything happens to her unborn child or her as a result of this abuse it will probably be too late for a solution cause the damage is done.

Chances are if he is the father and shes been with him for any amount of time, you are at a loss cause she , although beaten and abused, loves this POS and no one knows him like she does, he a good person, blah blah blah or something like that.

http://www.aardvarc.org/dv/states/codv.shtml -could be a start for you and your sis to get some advise.


Good luck and keep us posted.

[sniper7]

just start stopping by quite often and hang out for a long time to let him know you are around a lot!

[Dingo]

Personally, I think everybody deserves one warning. Maybe he was raised in an environment where he never learned respect for women, or how there are certain lines that shouldn't be crossed. Maybe he was beat as a kid, who knows? I would let him know in no uncertain terms, that this is the absolute last time that he will lay a hand on her. Let him know that his "free pass" is used up, and the next time will mean he's crippled or worse, without any chance of mercy or forgiveness - no matter what the consequences for you. Blood trumps legality in my mind every time. Be smart about it, but be decisive. Would you be able to accept it if he loses his temper and kills her or the child? Even if he goes to jail, will that be enough? Ultimately, wouldn't you rather run the risk of jail time or even your sister's anger, if you knew for certain that you were acting out of love in her best interests? Just my two cents worth...